Re: [心情] 關於過年回娘家的文!
我覺得很奇怪
大家到底 談戀愛時都在談些什麼? 風花雪月?兒女情長?
但都沒談到雙方家人對傳統或其它價值觀的異同嗎?
很久很久很久以前我在其它地方發過一篇文章
內容大致是說 婚前應該要把該談的先談好
然後被批的體無完膚
不外乎是批說 婚前怎麼可能談的那麼仔細
或是婚前談好的 不一定婚後會實踐或是有可能改變呀
沒錯, 婚前談好的很有可能婚後會改變
但婚前連談都不談 怎麼知道對方及對方家裡是怎麼想的呀?
瞭解一下對方的家族型態,過年過節的習慣
也可以和對方提及你們家的習慣, 例如:婚後初二一定要回娘家
還有像是生小孩誰取名字 在哪裡坐月子 婚後要住哪裡
雙方家族的政黨傾向
我和我老公交往一陣子後 我就想辦法正面或側面瞭解這些事情
我也直接和他說 除夕這天在哪裡過都無所謂 反正都要選一個地方過
但初二我一定要回娘家 沒有什麼我要留在婆家
陪婆婆回娘家或招待來訪親戚這種事
不是說一定要雙方坐下來 面對面像談判一樣很死板的談的這些事
但是交往個1年或2年 要瞭解或溝通這些事情並不難啊!
為什麼我看了版上這麼久 發現真很多人婚前談戀愛
好像真的只有在談"愛"
其它都沒有溝通過 到了婚後才一次暴發出來......
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