男友29歲,私立不知名科大畢業
工作穩定,週休二日,非責任制準時上下班
年收入60-70萬
有學貸二十幾萬,沒房沒車
住家裡每個月給一萬孝親費
我25歲,工作較不穩定
但年收入60左右,沒有學貸
住外面不用給孝親費
之前因為男友已固定每個月給孝親費
但他的父母親有需求還是會拿錢
上次開口要十幾萬
因為我反對最後男友沒有拿出來(男友有哥哥,但他父母只跟我男友拿,不跟哥哥拿)
我覺得要給的話應該要平分(男友哥哥國立科大碩士畢,學歷大勝工作也不錯)
男友雖然年收60-70,但那是加了獎金
一個月實領薪資大概三萬二
一年有兩個月加上獎金年收才到60-70
一個月三萬二的薪水
扣掉孝親費一萬、儲蓄險保險一萬左右、信用卡費學貸之後幾乎所剩無幾
因為男友的爸媽不可能不拿孝親費
所以每個月幾乎都沒剩什麼錢
但男友爸媽身體健康且算年輕(五十多歲)
無任何貸款也有房子,住在鄉下
我們有結婚打算
但男友爸媽不能提供任何金錢援助
結婚、買房、買車全部都沒辦法贊助我們
我提議過可以回家跟我家人借
我男友覺得這樣他很丟臉
我就想說好吧我們可以自己存
我一個月可存大概3萬左右
因此我希望男友是否可以每個月給孝親費之外剩下的錢存起來我們以後買房子
但男友認為他爸媽就是需要用錢不能不給
今天爭吵的點在我向男友提議
他領獎金那二十幾萬是否可拿去支付車子頭期款
剩下的每個月車貸我會付
但男友認為買車哪這麼容易
他沒有錢
我就說那你精算我們結婚、買車、買房需要多少錢
我們每個月能存多少錢
再看看這樣我們多久才能存夠錢
你就知道你給了那麼多孝親費我們根本沒辦法存錢
男友就暴怒說隨便啦
然後開始裝沒事不談這件事
我們已為這件事爭執很久
真的是我太咄咄逼人嗎?
但我覺得我很努力為未來打算
每個月真的都有放錢到共同戶頭存起來
我只是希望他務實一點
真的是我錯了嗎?
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