Re: [求助] 交往四年的女友,被父母反對
可能你媽把媳婦這個角色看的很重吧。一開始就以監考官的角度在看女友。殊不知女友還在傻傻的兩人世界。不懂得嘴甜、做家事、送禮等,主動進入媳婦考試的備戰狀態。你媽看到的,就是對內不懂增進家族和諧、對外不懂張羅人際,家世沒有幫助,經濟能力又只有30K的女人。所以,不喜歡可以理解啦。(連去客廳陪父母都要花一年讓人提醒)
但是,通常這麼嚴格,看得這麼細的婆婆,原po家世應該是不得了吧。因為,這種檔次的媳婦不多呀。
然後,父母親是需要教育的,天下不是所有事都要是照他們意思走。人生是你的、老婆是你的,這種事你都坦不住,肩膀想必是沒發育好。教育家長跟要回自己人生主控權,這跟孝順無關,跟智商有關。所有幸福快樂的故事,都是王子與公主共同創造自己的家,不是婆婆公公幫兒子選了快樂小夥伴,然後一家三口過著幸福快樂的日子(媳婦當然不算一家人呀)
不用急著說服你家的老公主,先問問你女友未來對家庭生活的期望。了解你媽跟你女友期待值落差,然後找一個折衷方案。用一種漸進的方式說服你媽,比如說改變她往後同住的期待、改變她對媳婦的期待、讓她知道女友的優點(比如幫你戒菸、讓你有了存錢動力,各種讓你變成更好更成熟的人原因)
以上打的好長,原po加油!
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