Re: [寶寶] 糾結於從母姓,是我的問題嗎?
看板BabyMother作者sheepingmom (sheepingmom)時間6年前 (2017/09/19 01:01)推噓61(61推 0噓 103→)留言164則, 51人參與討論串3/9 (看更多)
感謝大家的熱心回應
也謝謝寫信給我的板友
(竟然爆了,怎麼有種受寵若驚的感覺XDD)
關於一些板友的疑問
我想來補充一下:
1. 大寶根本是我的命,我怎麼可能不疼呢~(身為母親這樣解釋應該就夠了吧XD)
2. 上一篇沒特別帶到,其實我在生大寶前就在考慮讓孩子從母姓這件事,所以簽名前我
還猶豫了一下。但是當初考慮到這孩子是先生家的長孫,基於同理心我就簽了。也就是因
為如此,我婆婆那番話才讓我這麼不服氣,因為我的確是放棄了我在乎的事情,卻被人視
為理所當然。所以二寶我才會一直反覆思考這件事,不想輕易下決定。
3. 其實我婆婆已經沒有自理能力,目前是請外勞照顧,所以也不可能讓孩子跟她獨處或
讓她帶,當然我也擔心過身教言教對孩子的影響,只能說這是我們未來要很注意的教育部
分,會輔導他們奶奶生病這件事。至於很多板友提到如果從母姓受到差別待遇這件事,其
實我一點都不擔心,因為我們一直都是很獨立在帶孩子,無論經濟什麼都是靠自己,所以
婆家我們只是固定時間見面讓他們玩玩小孩,所以他們對小孩的影響力應該還好。(說實
話因為婆婆說話語氣較兇且喜愛使用命令及責問句,所以小小孩自己目前是不喜歡跟她親
近的)
4. 誠如各位所說,這或許比較偏向婆媳問題,有趣的是我婆婆應該不覺得我跟她有婆媳
問題(我對她能做的就是客套跟維持一定距離),不過一直以來她造成我心理的陰影部分
要怎麼去釋懷,可能真的是我這一生的功課。這一塊太深沉了,就不再這裡多提了,我會
繼續努力(或求援XD)。
5. 剛剛跟我先生開誠佈公再談了一次,他表示傾向從父姓不是因為他想跟自己姓,只是
覺得這不是當前社會主流,他不想以後讓女兒面對可能的困擾及異樣眼光,至於他媽媽造
成我的不舒服,他願意直接去溝通,應該可以做到少說那些話。如果我真的很堅持,那就
從母姓,但是他希望我想清楚。
非常謝謝各位的回應
給我很多不同的思考方向
我會仔細思考再下決定的!
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