Re: [婚前] 房貸家用無法達成共識(代PO回覆)
※ 引述《nunu1102 (.......................)》之銘言:
: 今天已把五年的餐費匯還給他 也跟男友協定分手了
: 本來今年1月要登記
: 後來因為男友忘記了就臨時跟戶政事務所取消
: 也許是老天爺都想叫他塊陶吧……
: 抱歉耽誤了他五年的青春 祝福他早日尋找到幸福
: 我也會好好調整心態面對新生活
: 再次感謝大家的建言
我嘗試著做個懶人包,請各位版友指教。
1.女生和男生是遠距離交往(女基隆男高雄),預定年底結婚。
2.兩人收入都很高,男生公務機關有15萬,女生業績制也有15~18萬。但是女生
要養娘家,一個月給娘家3萬家用,3萬儲蓄險。
3.女生從小就受到媽媽影響(因為媽媽本身婚姻關係),認為男人就是要擔下一切。
4.婚前男生買了一間新房子,貸款月繳8萬,後來男生受外訓,月薪暫時減為10萬。
5.兩人最近約會吃飯,男生說最近錢不太夠,叫女生自己出錢吃飯。兩人因此吵架。
6.女生開始懷疑這段交往步入婚姻後,在金錢使用方面無法達成共識。男生叫她
到婚姻板問問其他媳婦的意見。
7.女生請板主代po發文後,婚姻板媳婦說不懂他開始計較什麼,找下一個願意付錢的
,房子不是她想要買的,如果我想是你不想結婚,男友打腫臉充胖子吧,先調查
一下是否真的職業收入沒錯,不要結婚會開心得多,是我我不會嫁…如果自己一個
月入十幾萬我何必要跟一個愛計較的男生結婚,怕以後可有得吵了
8.女生聽完板友意見後,回去立刻和男生分手。
婚姻板又幫助一個女孩,避免她掉進不幸福的婚姻中,真是可喜可賀,可喜可賀。
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※ 編輯: Max11 (60.249.117.187), 04/10/2015 09:45:48
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第7點重寫了。
※ 編輯: Max11 (60.249.117.187), 04/10/2015 10:06:26
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※ 編輯: Max11 (60.249.117.187), 04/10/2015 10:15:01
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如果用我自己的想法分析,應該是男友「開口要她出錢」這件事,踩到了原原po
心裡的大地雷。因為從小她就是在「爸爸向媽媽要錢」這種環境下長大,對於
男人向女人要錢這件事,潛意識就會認為這是吃軟飯不可靠的男人。
男友可能覺得自己很無辜,阿不就是請她出個飯錢而已。抱歉,這真的是大雷,
喚醒了原原po心裡的恐懼,今天跟我要飯錢,明天會不會跟我要生活費,後天
不就全部都給我養了?不,我不要,我不要步上媽媽的後塵...我要逃離這裡...
※ 編輯: Max11 (60.249.117.187), 04/10/2015 11:19:36
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