Re: [難過] 堂姊的婚禮
※ 引述《root0113 (笑破人家的襪子)》之銘言:
: 大家一定好奇,明明是婚禮,為什麼分類是難過?
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: 說了這麼多,想問各位:
: 真的是我做人失敗嗎?
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我覺得你不是做人失敗,只是不太會做人。
親戚之間需要的就是面子,而這種場合最需要面子的是你老爸。
如果你連自己老爸的面子都不給,甚至覺得要「面子」何用?
那你老爸他真的生養你但是卻沒把你教懂。
這種時候,你該考慮的不是親戚如何如何,
而是看到老爸都已經這麼表態了,你卻不願意考慮他老人家的立場。
看到他無論受到兄弟姊妹如何對待,都還是想要把家族氣氛搞好,主動去接近,
其實他的態度已經顯而易見,做子女的該怎麼做,心知肚明。
舉我自己的例子,跟你家有點像。
我是家裡長子,爸爸那輩八個兄弟姐妹,
姑嫂關係一直不算好但我主動面對冷言冷語幾年後,這種關係也頗有改善,
我爸也能正常與兄弟姐妹交流,因而家族氣氛漸漸融洽。
面對人,尤其是親戚這種很難說脫離就脫離的關係,
建議你要放下成見認真面對。
當然,每個人都有自己選擇的權利,如果你真的完全不想去,
那就丟下一切束縛,過自己的生活,只是在你老爸心中刻下一道傷痕罷了。
看你的敘述,總覺得你或許心裡埋怨老爸沒有讓你們過的很好。
因此這種事,
可能要等你成家生小孩後才能體會父母的心情吧。
親戚關係,坦然勇敢面對,不屈不撓不比較,
是為了你自己甚至兒女的將來,想遠一點吧,
最重要的是,自己的老爸,多體諒點。
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