[心情] 雖然年紀大…但不想將就錯了嗎?已回收
原波年紀已過初老門檻,也不正,不高,不瘦
沒有顯赫家世背景,沒有漂亮的存款數字……
雖然身旁好友都已邁入家庭,偶爾很羨慕
但家裡長輩們超急,然後開始介紹一大堆誰誰誰的誰誰誰,總是說:條件不錯,去跟人家
見面試試看……
問說什麼叫條件不錯,不外乎就是職業說出來像個樣子,警察、公務員、工程師…我都碰
過,
但真再問細節一點,個性呢?興趣呢?……這些都只會獲得長輩們說:聽說不錯
真的見了面,我沒厲害的外表自然也不要求要多高多帥多會打扮,只覺得順眼即可…
對我來說,外表隨著年紀總會變的,只有能聊得來才是重點
幾次下來這些長輩介紹的男生通通是無法聊天的人,即便我已經認真開話題了,也總是容
易獲得一個句號的答案……
上個月長輩又介紹一個,又說是條件不錯,家裡自己開工廠,有兩間房子,獨子,就這樣
,然後又天天叮嚀我要好好把握這個男生,說對方有打來我一定要赴約,真的約見面了,
半個小時聊不到幾句,真的覺得沒可能
結果長輩聽完說:到這年紀還沒結婚就代表不大會跟女生互動呀,這樣的男生很好呀,家
裡環境也不錯,嫁過去可以當少奶奶不用工作,妳要好好把握,不要再挑了
我真的是……雖然經濟不用擔心是很好,可是整天在家大眼瞪小眼沒話說的生活我沒有辦
法,我沒有很挑,也沒什麼能挑的,求一個能好好聊天的,很過份嗎?年紀大了就一定要
將就嗎?
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我沒有寫得很清楚,抱歉
基於我不是正妹,當然懷抱希望出來見面然後破滅所以跟我沒啥好聊的也有…
我指的是那些見完面表明想交往的…
而“將就”並沒有貶低對方的意思,只是單單想表達我沒有感覺,但長輩僅憑經濟能力就
覺得是績優股要我速速答應交往、結婚……
碰過的確有的是家人要求見面而自己也沒意願的,當然馬上說開且沒負擔的結束飯局,挺
好的
其他的通常對方約我會答應出去至少兩次,就是我覺得聊不出共同興趣、共同嗜好、平時
看的關心的也不同,甚至對於養狗養貓的想法也不同,所以我說聊不來……對方的再邀約
我
就會直接了當表明只適合當一般朋友,因為我也不想耽誤這些真心想跟我結婚的人……
我羨慕結婚的朋友,但我也懂結婚後有不同的難題,所以我不急,真遇不到那就自己過吧
,總比結了之後離的好點吧…
因為我的工作環境要嘛是人夫,要嘛是多元成家的,也大概是我沒有急,所以沒認真
找對象,急的是那些覺得過了某年紀還沒結婚的我很不應該的長輩
以上,報告完畢
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