[問題] 急件-為聘金吵架(小孩兩歲了補宴客)已回收
內文冗長,手機排版,但懇請耐心看,給我建議,很急...感恩
跟我先生交往四年,同居兩年,公正結婚快兩年。育有一子,快兩歲。
今年要補婚紗、宴客等。但是近日為了聘金與先生爭吵,陷入冰點,盼眾鄉民給我建議。
婚前先生買了小公寓與車子,我的薪水都交給他管,貸款統一由他統整兩人薪水來支付,但房與車非我名下。後來懷孕了,便先行公正結婚,禮俗擺後,因為我當時剛裝牙套,想拆掉後在拍婚紗再宴客。懷孕至今,兒子快兩歲了,我想復職,去工作,但先生不肯。
近日籌劃婚禮,爭吵不休。
我母親要求聘金36萬,但先生表示家裡姊姊出嫁也沒要求聘金,更何況我家也沒有備嫁妝(幾年前母親給五十萬給我當嫁妝,也建議可還學貸,所以我把五十萬拿去還學貸了)先生表示這不算嫁妝,所以希望聘金給出去,作作樣子,希望我母親歸還。
但母親不肯,她認為這聘金是給我的保障,因為我兒子也生了,也公證了,但是房子車子不是我名下,且為婚前財產。
婆婆是跟我説不用擔心,她早備了聘金,一切該給會給。
但我先生不願婆婆辛苦賺錢拿出積蓄,所以一再要求我不要拿聘金。
如果我母親堅持要拿,那我先生要去銀行貸款借錢來付聘金、或賣房子,我們一家三口就搬出去租房子、不然就是回老家的舊厝居住(他工作重找,然後舊厝附近私娼寮對兒子生長環境之影響也不管了)
我們為此爭吵不止,我該怎麼辦?
我認為我不該妥協,我認為聘金一定要拿,各位覺得呢?因為婆婆説會給了,但我先生確不肯婆婆給...
我的嫁妝,我拿去還學貸了,這樣站不住腳嗎?
我覺得我沒有任何經濟保障
我也沒有工作(先生不肯我去工作)
我的過去的錢都歸先生管(都用去繳房貸車貸了),所以我也沒有可動用的錢。我很無助,我該怎麼有理的説服先生? 現在感覺他都不想面對我,怎麼辦,我該如何談?我朋友認為我該堅持拿聘金36萬,畢竟婆婆已經備妥...拿了,啟碼還有些經濟安全感,是嗎?
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