Re: [轉錄] 發現了 10/90 定律
※ 引述《bobju (寶貝豬)》之銘言：
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: Discover the 90/10 Principle.
: 發現了 90/10 的定律。
: It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
: 它將改變你的一生（最低限度，它將改變你對不同情況的反應）。
: What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
: 90% of life is decided by how you react.
: 90/10 的定律是什麼？生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成，餘下的 90% 則由你的
: 反應而決定。
: What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens
: to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late
: arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off
: in traffic.
: 這意味著什麼？我們無法掌握那 10% 的際遇。 我們無法阻止行程因汽車壞掉、
: 航班誤點，甚或車子拋錨而延誤。
: We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You
: determine the other 90%.
: 我們無法控制那 10% 的際遇，但餘下的 90% 則不然。你可以決定餘下的 90%。
: How? ……….By your reaction.
: 如何？ … 憑你的反應。
: You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction.
: Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
: 你不能控制交通燈轉紅，但你能夠控制你的反應。別讓他人愚弄你，你能夠控制
: 你的反應。
: Let's use an example.
: 讓我們舉個例子。
: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over
: a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what
: just happened.
: 你與你的家人吃早餐，你的女兒不小心把咖啡潑倒在你的襯衫上，這是你無法控制
: 的情況。
: What happens next will be determined by how you react.
: 下一步將如何則由你的反應而定。
: You curse.
: 你開始責罵。
: You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks
: down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize
: her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short
: verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back
: downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
: breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
: 你狠狠地臭罵女兒一頓，令她陷於痛苦之中。然後你又把怨氣發洩在太太身上
: ，責難她把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的是一場短暫的罵戰。你生氣地上樓更換你
: 的襯衫。你下樓，然後發現你的女兒正哭著吃早餐並趕著回校。結果，她錯過了
: 巴士。
: Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and
: drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles
: an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
: 你的太太趕著上班，你匆忙開車把女兒送回學校。因為你已經遲到了，你以時速
: 四十英里在一條限速三十英里 上的道路前進。
: After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive
: at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
: After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
: briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
: get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
: 你付了六十元道路罰款，終於抵達學校，並已遲到十五分鐘。你的女兒沒有跟你
: 道別便已跑進學校。你回到公司，已是九時二十分了，這時你竟然發現──你忘
: 了帶公事包。這是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的運氣每況越下，你開始渴望回
: 家。
: When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with
: your spouse and daughter.
: 當你下班回家，你感到你與太太及女兒的關係上出現微小裂痕。
: Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
: 為什麼？ … 一切皆由你早上的反應而起。
: Why did you have a bad day?
: 為何你會有如此糟糕的一天？
: A) Did the coffee cause it? Ａ）是咖啡所造成的嗎？
: B) Did your daughter cause it? Ｂ）是你的女兒所造成的嗎？
: C) Did the policeman cause it? Ｃ）是警察所造成的嗎？
: D) Did you cause it? Ｄ）是你所造成的嗎？
: The answer is “D". 答案是Ｄ。
: You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted
: in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
: 你無法控制女兒打翻咖啡一事，但你在緊接那五秒內的反應讓霉運開始發生。
: Here is what could have and should have happened.
: 以下是你改寫命運的結局。
: Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
: say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
: Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
: your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window
: and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive
: 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
: how good the day you are having.
: 咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女兒幾乎要哭了，但你溫柔地說：「親愛的，這並不算
: 什麼，但你下次得小心一點了。」你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完畢並拿起你
: 的公事包後，你下樓去，望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回頭並向你
: 揮手。你早了五分鐘回到公司，並親切地與你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦對你新
: 的一天給予正面的評價。
: Notice the difference?
: 看到兩者的分別嗎？
: Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
: 兩個不同的情景，由同一個開首所引起。但結局完全兩樣。
: Why?
: 為什麼？
: Because of how you REACTED.
: 皆因你的反應而起。
: You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other
: 90% was determined by your reaction.
: 你或許真的無法掌控 10% 的際遇，但剩下的 90% 則可以由你的反應而定。
: Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says
: something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll
: off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment
: affect you!
: 以下有一些實踐 90/10 定律的方法。如有人說起你的是非，千萬別當一塊
: 「海綿」，讓那些攻擊性的說話像水在玻璃上一般的流走。別讓那些負面評價
: 纏繞著你！
: React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could
: result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
: 適當的回應能夠使你的生活免受破壞。一個錯誤的反應能夠使你失去朋友、生氣
: 、甚或被壓力壓得喘不過氣來。
: How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
: temper?
: Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel
: fall off)
: Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump
: them?
: 如果車子拋錨了，你會如何感想？你會生氣嗎？你會否猛擊車上的鐵鍊？我的一
: 個朋友就把鐵鍊弄下來！你會怒罵嗎？你的血壓是否急速上升？你會否嘗試去踫
: 擊他們？
: WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars
: ruin your drive?
: 誰會在意你上班遲到了十秒？為何讓車子破壞你的駕駛過程？
: Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
: 記著 90/10 的定律，別在意。
: You are told you lost your job.
: 你被通知說你被辭退了。
: Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying
: energy and time into finding another job.
: 你為何失眠與憤怒 ? 事情總是發生了。不如用你憂心的力量及時間去找尋新工
: 作吧！
: The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
: Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
: control over what is going on.
: 航班延誤了，而它將影響你一整天的行程。為何將你的怒氣發洩在服務員的身上
: ？她並不能阻止事情發生。
: Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get
: stressed out? It will just make things worse.
: 如利用你的時間學習，或認識旁邊的乘客。不要憤怒，它將令你的一天變的更糟。
: Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at
: the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle
: is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
: 現在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。實踐它，你將會發現它的驚人效果。嘗試實行它
: ，你將不會有任何損失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少數的人懂得運用它
: 。
: The result?
: 結果呢？
: Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials,
: problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10
: principle.
: 超過百萬人沈溺在痛苦、嘗試、問題與心傷之中。我們必須理解並實踐 90/10 的
: 定律。
: It CAN change your life!!!
: 它將改變你的一生。
: Enjoy…. 願與各位並勉！
這是一個好故事只可惜你用錯地方
這個故事教人要調適自己的反應去適應現實的論點我贊成
但是這個故事沒有叫人要去做不曝光邀約，
你會套用在這裡的情形，屬於一種過度推論或是錯誤引用。
如果你的邏輯可以成立，
今天我是排放廢水的工廠，
我也可以引用同樣的故事，叫你們大家卡忍耐
因為你生活中10%的事情是不可能變動的，
只有調適你的反應。
所以我可以繼續排放廢水。
你有沒有想過你今天做一件事情，都是可能有「外部性」的，
都可能會別人造成影響？
假設你持續不曝光邀約，你影響了別人正常生活或是不受欺騙的權利，
這就像是排放廢水的工廠一樣是造成別人負面的外部性，
造成別人負面的負擔。
今天你有何資格要求對方包容你的這種行為？
如果你的邏輯可以成立，
這個社會早就無法無天了。
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