Re: [討論] 知道女生有男友就遠離 很現實嗎?
※ 引述《avogadro13 (紅與黑)》之銘言:
: 一般人連對好朋友都不會說浪費時間這種話
: 可見一定不是什麼太直白這種爛理由
: 簡單來說
: 你約不出來
: 又發現她有男友沒告訴你
: 就惱羞了爆氣了
: 看起來女生比你有風度多了
: 約不到就生氣 哈哈哈哈
我覺得有時候做為朋友的條件還比有好感的對象嚴苛.
你可能會因為一個人的外表而有興趣想進一步.
但沒跨過那一步,也不代表會變成朋友. 這完全是兩回事.
彼此有彼此的生活,甚或可能有男/女友,
最終變成只是認識的一個人, 就像手機名單裡面有的,但根本不會連絡的聯絡人.
又或是曾經很要好過,見到面會很開心但平常不會主動聯繫的朋友.
原原PO的事情大概就是這樣,
認識了一個覺得不錯的女生, 想往男女朋友發展.
但後來發現對方有男友, 於是保持距離.
要說現實也沒錯, 但這樣的現實又沒有錯..
做不成情侶也做不成朋友,我覺得這也沒什麼.
想做為男/女朋友的對象, 本來就未必是會想做好朋友的對象.
不能接受這個現實,還認為對方一定要和自己做朋友,不然就太現實.
這根本沒什麼意義.
別說今天是男生追女生.
以我自己的例子, 也遇過幾次女生對自己明示或暗示.
但在我表明自己沒興趣進一步發展或表明有女友來婉拒對方之後.
便成為了手機聯絡人中,存在但是不會聯絡的對象.
我也不曾再去問對方,為什麼變得冷淡.
更不會假裝和對方是好朋友. 也不會去浪費對方的時間.
如果真的是純友誼關係,哪會受到是不是單身的影響.
至少,身邊的好朋友,不管是同性或異性都不會因彼此是否單身而產生變化.
我更不曾想過當對方放淡之後,
還要去講對方這樣太現實,
到這個地步都這麼白了,還要對方一定要和自己當好朋友, 也太強人所難了吧?!
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我是覺得原PO就是很直白的將自己對於女方只有
1.進一步交往 或 2.不浪費時間經營任何關係 兩條路的想法表達出來.
當然,會用"浪費時間" 這樣直接的話是惱羞還是只是很直白的講出來
這我不知道.
但我覺得再繼續往來只是浪費時間確實是原原PO的想法.
就算用委婉的方式表達,覺得浪費時間的還是浪費時間.
事實上,我也覺得如果對於對方本來就只有男女間的好感, 而沒有想做普通朋友的想法.
勉強下去當朋友,真的是浪費時間.
退回點頭之交,不過就是打回原形而已.
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