Re: [心情] 準備迎接新生兒,但金錢觀不合消失
謝謝大家的評論
也收到有些版友特別來信罵我,
這間店對我來說的重要性,你們想的到我怎麼可能想不到?
有很多的因素即便我解釋了,版友們覺得不可能,不表示世上沒有任何可能性
我們歷經許多的努力、評估、堅持,我想這過程跟婚姻版比較無相關就不提了
我先生對金錢比較沒概念是事實,我對頓失收入沒安全感也是事實
每個人經歷跟價值觀本來就不同,很多人覺得我這樣很好過還在不知足
但是我就是知道自己未來會沒收入,才會更努力工作賺錢存錢
因為害怕被錢追著跑,所以才會希望自己在有餘裕的時候多存一點
孩子來在我準備不足的時候,我會希望先生一起努力
月入7-10萬所有人都覺得看起來很高,但這是我這一年的成就
我只是沒說在那之前我的收入很少,出社會後沒給家裡錢還吃住家裡
幫忙買房算是回報家裡對我的照顧,因為要出嫁了,也是拿出自己還過得去的部分
我不覺得可以藉此要求娘家幫我照顧小孩,畢竟每個人都有自己原本的責任
很多人提了許多他們覺得我應該選擇的選項,並且表示了他們的不認同
但是生活有時候不是你能選擇的,如果能夠如此完美就不會有這麼多的不得已了
好比工作不是只有我一個人的,我想要選擇什麼方案另一個人不同意
婚宴也是【雙方父母】期望的(先生是長子),不是我想不要就可以不要,
他們就想分想嫁娶喜悅不收禮金,在其他禮俗部分長輩都諸多讓步的情況下
我覺得努力去滿足他們唯一的願望,我覺得也是很互相的(只有我朋友收禮金)
還是很感謝大家看完的意見,
跟先生評估完後他也承認他沒辦法保證每個禮拜都有機會至少去一次
單純只是覺得很多課程都很有趣,1000不貴然後就買了
以他能使用的機率,可能1個月(或是2個月)才能去一次,才驚覺好像有點不划算
但退掉會有違約金的部分,所以就讓他學個經驗
本次不愉悅就到此結束,感謝婚姻版讓我紓發心情
先生的生活單純工作單純思想也單純,簡單講算是生活白癡一枚
所以有時候我必須多操一點心,再加上許多事情都沒準備好,難免壓力大了一點,
雖然得到滿滿的罵聲,但我也只是想上來釋放我的壓力
謝謝大家:)
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雖然我們兩個經濟看起來有點吃緊,但是長輩們是很樂意出錢幫我們辦婚禮
純粹是先生覺得要靠自己,拒絕長輩金援(然後一直覺得自己錢很夠用)
因為婚宴應該是在明年秋冬,可能10幾桌不會在飯店婚宴會館等級
到時如果不夠我會私下跟長輩開口,如果缺很大,那就繼續拖下去XD
所以婚宴我是沒有很擔心
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