[苦惱] 這樣的男人算好老公嗎?
我跟老公結婚今年滿三年
兩個人差半歲,今年都滿30
不知是30歲女人的焦慮還是什麼
最近總覺得他好像是個沒什麼肩膀的男人
先說收入他底薪大概36,如有分紅大概月薪是5(但今年老闆說沒分紅)
我則是月薪5,年終可能有一個月
平常生活大多各出各的,或是一起採買的時候會輪流付錢
從以前戀愛就是這種模式
我也覺得沒什麼不好
但有時候他出多了幾次
就會有點暗示說;上次的是我付的喔
然後我就會付掉,這時心裡就會有點....
今年我公公給了800萬要給我們在台北買房子
然後只要我老公最多貸200萬(公婆家不要我貸款)
預算說多不多,說少不少,要找到完全合意的很難
都已經看了十幾二十間還沒有滿意的
我一開始還是很積極的想多看一些房子
他就會說:現在房價太高,我爸說兩年後會降下來
然後就漸漸好像不太管房子的事情
搞得我不知道該繼續還是就先算了
因為錢也不是我的
這中間,他在公司弄了個熱音社,公司有活動就會找他們去表演
他是創團人也是社長,所以常常要團練,回家也是要忙著找上台的團員
有次很晚我跟他講話,他邊打MSN邊笑沒理我,我又講了一次
他嗯嗯的敷衍的回應,我才衝上前看他電腦到底在聊什麼
他一開始急著點掉視窗,後來我說我要看,他才又點開
對話是沒什麼特別,但他專注於弄社團的事不理我讓我很爆炸
好像變成他對於社團的熱衷,比思考我們的事情還重要...
最近也常常想說未來該怎麼計畫
要聲小孩嗎?他說不想,生了會讓生活品質降低
那工作呢?他說他只想做目前的工作(比RD低一階的層級),也沒有想要往主管職邁進
就這樣領三四萬薪水他覺得就夠了,就算是十年以後還是這樣他也無妨
那房子呢?就處於還是不確定要看哪一區,要車位還是不要車位,要兩房還是三房,
要公寓還是華夏,就是什麼都不確定的情況中,停滯著
說實在老公對我很好,會幫我買飯,不管我去哪他都會騎車帶我去,偶爾帶我去吃大餐,
很融入我朋友的圈子,對我爸媽也不錯....
但就是,對事情不太有主見,不想做決定,安於眼前現狀,對未來完全沒有計畫,
沒有企圖心,也沒有想要提昇自己....
然後在我跟他溝通這些事情之後,他居然怯怯的說:妳...要不要再去找一個更好的?
這樣的男人,到底算不算是好老公?
--
※ 發信站: 批踢踢實業坊(ptt.cc)
◆ From: 118.168.100.247
→
09/13 03:39, , 1F
09/13 03:39, 1F
推
09/13 03:42, , 2F
09/13 03:42, 2F
→
09/13 03:42, , 3F
09/13 03:42, 3F
推
09/13 03:42, , 4F
09/13 03:42, 4F
→
09/13 03:43, , 5F
09/13 03:43, 5F
推
09/13 03:46, , 6F
09/13 03:46, 6F
→
09/13 03:47, , 7F
09/13 03:47, 7F
→
09/13 03:47, , 8F
09/13 03:47, 8F
推
09/13 04:01, , 9F
09/13 04:01, 9F
→
09/13 04:02, , 10F
09/13 04:02, 10F
→
09/13 04:04, , 11F
09/13 04:04, 11F
→
09/13 04:04, , 12F
09/13 04:04, 12F
推
09/13 04:09, , 13F
09/13 04:09, 13F
推
09/13 04:20, , 14F
09/13 04:20, 14F
推
09/13 04:20, , 15F
09/13 04:20, 15F
→
09/13 04:20, , 16F
09/13 04:20, 16F
→
09/13 04:21, , 17F
09/13 04:21, 17F
→
09/13 04:21, , 18F
09/13 04:21, 18F
→
09/13 04:21, , 19F
09/13 04:21, 19F
→
09/13 04:23, , 20F
09/13 04:23, 20F
推
09/13 04:30, , 21F
09/13 04:30, 21F
→
09/13 04:31, , 22F
09/13 04:31, 22F
→
09/13 04:32, , 23F
09/13 04:32, 23F
→
09/13 04:33, , 24F
09/13 04:33, 24F
→
09/13 04:34, , 25F
09/13 04:34, 25F
→
09/13 04:35, , 26F
09/13 04:35, 26F
→
09/13 04:41, , 27F
09/13 04:41, 27F
→
09/13 04:42, , 28F
09/13 04:42, 28F
→
09/13 04:43, , 29F
09/13 04:43, 29F
→
09/13 04:43, , 30F
09/13 04:43, 30F
→
09/13 04:44, , 31F
09/13 04:44, 31F
→
09/13 04:44, , 32F
09/13 04:44, 32F
→
09/13 04:44, , 33F
09/13 04:44, 33F
→
09/13 04:44, , 34F
09/13 04:44, 34F
→
09/13 04:46, , 35F
09/13 04:46, 35F
→
09/13 04:46, , 36F
09/13 04:46, 36F
→
09/13 04:46, , 37F
09/13 04:46, 37F
推
09/13 04:50, , 38F
09/13 04:50, 38F
→
09/13 04:51, , 39F
09/13 04:51, 39F
還有 58 則推文
→
09/13 13:40, , 98F
09/13 13:40, 98F
→
09/13 13:41, , 99F
09/13 13:41, 99F
→
09/13 13:41, , 100F
09/13 13:41, 100F
推
09/13 14:53, , 101F
09/13 14:53, 101F
推
09/13 14:54, , 102F
09/13 14:54, 102F
→
09/13 14:55, , 103F
09/13 14:55, 103F
→
09/13 14:57, , 104F
09/13 14:57, 104F
→
09/13 15:48, , 105F
09/13 15:48, 105F
→
09/13 15:52, , 106F
09/13 15:52, 106F
推
09/13 18:48, , 107F
09/13 18:48, 107F
→
09/13 18:50, , 108F
09/13 18:50, 108F
→
09/13 18:50, , 109F
09/13 18:50, 109F
→
09/13 19:04, , 110F
09/13 19:04, 110F
推
09/13 20:21, , 111F
09/13 20:21, 111F
推
09/13 23:12, , 112F
09/13 23:12, 112F
→
09/13 23:13, , 113F
09/13 23:13, 113F
→
09/13 23:17, , 114F
09/13 23:17, 114F
推
09/14 01:09, , 115F
09/14 01:09, 115F
推
09/14 01:10, , 116F
09/14 01:10, 116F
→
09/14 01:12, , 117F
09/14 01:12, 117F
→
09/14 01:13, , 118F
09/14 01:13, 118F
推
09/14 01:17, , 119F
09/14 01:17, 119F
推
09/14 08:58, , 120F
09/14 08:58, 120F
→
09/14 08:59, , 121F
09/14 08:59, 121F
→
09/14 10:51, , 122F
09/14 10:51, 122F
→
09/14 10:52, , 123F
09/14 10:52, 123F
噓
09/14 11:32, , 124F
09/14 11:32, 124F
→
09/14 13:35, , 125F
09/14 13:35, 125F
→
09/14 13:36, , 126F
09/14 13:36, 126F
噓
09/14 15:49, , 127F
09/14 15:49, 127F
→
09/14 17:59, , 128F
09/14 17:59, 128F
→
09/14 18:00, , 129F
09/14 18:00, 129F
→
09/14 19:08, , 130F
09/14 19:08, 130F
→
09/14 19:08, , 131F
09/14 19:08, 131F
→
09/14 19:09, , 132F
09/14 19:09, 132F
→
09/14 21:27, , 133F
09/14 21:27, 133F
推
09/15 11:49, , 134F
09/15 11:49, 134F
→
09/16 02:08, , 135F
09/16 02:08, 135F
噓
09/16 17:45, , 136F
09/16 17:45, 136F
→
09/16 17:47, , 137F
09/16 17:47, 137F
討論串 (同標題文章)