[心情] 那不知道會不會愛小孩要不要生?消失
看到近日的不愛自己小孩的討論串也滿有感
同時為很多人義正詞嚴地說"不愛就不要生" "生了就必須愛"的理所當然感到害怕
那如果無法肯定自己會不會愛小孩 有沒有內建母愛要不要生呢?
我覺得我對小孩還好
路上 FB上 看到可愛的小孩也會喜歡會融化
但如果看到朋友小孩不可愛又一直PO就會反感
乘坐交通工具遇到吵鬧的小孩也會覺討厭
親友的小孩玩一下OK,但要叫我幫忙帶半天一天可能也消受不了
猶豫要不要生,不知道自己會不會愛的主因是因為我超愛我男友
很怕小孩影響破壞了之後夫妻感情(小孩出生後夫妻感情降到冰點的案例超多)
我暗戀我男友很多年好不容易才在一起
但是卻是遠距,一年裡面聚少離多
好不容易最近論及婚嫁了,想著之後終於可以生活在一起了
要是有了小孩,不就變成婚姻中的第三者嗎?
會怕將來老公會不會心思都在小孩身上,就都不關心我了
(通常好像是老公在怕這點比較多orz)
會很希望結婚幾年過夠了兩人世界再考慮生,不過我和男友年紀都不小了
等到結完婚都34了...是不趕緊生就會變高齡產婦的年紀
實在令人想到就有點苦惱
像這種不算排斥但就是有點抗拒恐懼的真不知要不要生
之前很多人理所當然地說著"生下來就會愛了"
但最近看到那討論串的案例不禁又令我擔心起來
要是生完不愛還怨懟孩子影響了夫妻感情、相處該怎麼辦?
還是說有這樣的擔心就別生?
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