Re: Hi! Tall guy in Taiwan ^_^ (attempt 2)
看板TallClub作者ataoyuanguy (A Taoyuan Guy)時間16年前 (2008/05/15 16:41)推噓3(3推 0噓 11→)留言14則, 3人參與討論串2/5 (看更多)
Something else I should have mentioned...
Most of you live in Taipei; you see 1000's of different people every
day. There's lots of opportunities to make new friends, and if you want
to meet a tall person, it's easy: just look in front of you on the MRT!
Whereas, I live and work in Taoyuan County. I see the same 300 people every
day. Most of them are students at my university; and I can't make friends
with those students from my university. (that's just part of being a
Professor). I only know of one woman who is over 175cm that I see in
everyday life.
And that is after 2 years living here...
I travel to Taipei sometimes, but it's not much fun. If I go to visit friends,
then there aren't so many opportunities to make new friends (it would be
impolite towards my existing friends, as though I am saying that they
aren't good enough).
If I go by myself... can you imagine travelling to Taipei by yourself, day
after day, trying to meet intelligent people? It's not much fun. Most smart
people are working hard at their university, or reading books at home, for
example. So really, it's just a continual reminder of being alone.
Bars? No thanks, I don't want to make friends with drunk women.
Bookstores? Forget it. It would be OK if there were some books to look at
while you look around and see who else is there. But everything is in Chinese,
and sometimes the English books are sealed to stop you looking at them!
Libraries? You can't even talk... Have you ever tried making friends in a
library here? It would be easier to make friends in a graveyard!
Coffee shops? So expensive, and I don't drink coffee anyway. Besides,
nobody actually talks to strangers in coffee shops here. Most people sit
and use their laptop, by themselves.
Nightmarkets/malls... probably fun if you are a girl and like to look at
clothes anyway as you walk around. If you're a guy, and you have all the
clothes you want, and you don't want to get fat, then nightmarkets are
pretty boring. Just the same items, over and over.
Dating/friendship sites? Most of the 'interesting' girls on this sites don't
actually want to date or make friends. They just want to see how many
guys they get messages from, to boost their ego. Or, so it seems.
And there seems to be a lot of crazy people on these sites too.
????
I've tried saying hi to some people in the street or on the train;
often they don't speak English, or they are too scared to speak English.
If I try my really bad Chinese, they start talking too quickly and I
don't understand them.
I think it's probably quite different for anyone studying at university.
You can become friends easily with anyone you; and dating is super easy.
As soon as you get past 25... that stops.
One other difficulty is that people here already have all the friends they
want by the age of 22. After that, they don't really want to make new friends.
So in my age group (25-30), it's pretty tough to join new social groups.
All my friends (Taiwanese, Western) have tried to help me by thinking of any
tall intelligent people that they know, around my age. Unfortunately...
no luck.
Thinking about it... even if I met a girl of 190cm, I would still be
looking downwards towards her! And how many 190cm girls do you know in
Taiwan? I don't think I've even seen one.
I think I've only seen 1 or 2 girls of 180cm.
180cm guys think they have a problem from being tall...
...but you guys are so lucky!!!! I'd love to be as short as you.
I get the feeling that I am not alone in feeling this way, about how
difficult it is to try and find your ideal partner here.
Most of my female Taiwanese friends in my age group, are still single.
They go to work every day and are too tired to socialise at night.
So, they don't have opportunities to meet a boyfriend.
... before they know it, they are 30... heading towards 35...
... still single.
I think Taiwan has a big problem in this way.
Everyone feels too busy or too 'ashamed' to look for help, or look around
to find their ideal partner.
BBSs seem like my last hope.
Question: Does anyone here have the same difficulty in this way, as I seem
to be having in Taiwan?
I recently met one nice girl who was very smart. But, her parents
'didn't approve' of her knowing me - even as a friend, it seems!
All they knew was that I was a westerner.
So, there's a big racism problem too.
"America is cool", but whose parents would like their children to hang out
with a westerner? Even one who became a university professor at age 26...
Still, I guess I am a little bit lucky; darker skinned people; or people
from poorer Asian countries, have an even more difficult life!
Mu
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