[教養] 5歲兒經常激怒阿公阿嬤怎麼辦?
今天早上吃早餐的時候,婆婆忽然對我說,要我重視孩子的教育,不要只顧著上班,
小孩簡直像個不良少年一樣,小孩變壞了,工作再好也沒用,聽了覺得很沉重。
婆婆老是唸說,街坊鄰居的小孩沒有像我們家的孩子一樣,很"番(台語)",歹教!
原來是因為,我們家快五歲的小男生,常常對著阿公大叫,
說什麼「阿公我討厭你!你給我走開!」之類的話,還會打人,
阿公看到他的行為之後大為火光,他又是一個不好溝通的小孩,
通常得不到東西,就會大哭大鬧,
阿公阿嬤禁不起吵,不是妥協,要不然就是跟著發脾氣。
(我覺得他已經習慣用情緒威脅的模式跟阿公阿嬤相處)
三不五時回到家,面對的就是兩個大人和兩個小孩(弟弟2歲半,開始會學哥哥)不好的情緒
婆婆有時候被吵到很不高興的時候,還會發脾氣打電話到公司叫我趕快回家,
我大概每天下班回到家已經晚上七點,幫他們洗澡完,陪他們玩一下就帶他們去睡覺,
問題在哥哥幼稚園下課(大約4點半)到晚上七點,
這段時間是阿公阿嬤要代為照顧他們的時間,
常常為了吃飯不乖乖吃,玩具不收、兄弟搶東西等等的問題發脾氣,
教養的問題,當然是父母的責任,
我曾問過他,你知道「討厭」是什麼嗎?小朋友沉默不知道怎麼回答。
面對他對大人不禮貌說話的語氣,也很多次的跟他說不可以這樣,
「阿公阿嬤平常照顧你很辛苦,所以你不可以對阿公阿嬤不禮貌,
你說討厭阿公,阿公會傷心,如果媽媽對你說我不喜歡你,你會想哭哭對不對?」
當下跟他說完,他好像懂了,可是沒兩天又來了,
也曾經胡亂哭鬧到忍不住體罰他,可是我發現沒什麼用,
用講道理的,這種情形還是不斷上演,
難道說真的是我的教法有問題嗎?有時候覺得回家壓力好大,
不知道回家小孩是不是又在哭鬧了,公婆是不是又不高興了,
可以給我一點意見嗎?
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