[討論] 這種男友還有辦法調教(矯正)嗎?
朋友B與男友(下稱A)目前交往一年半,
A男對B很好,B有考慮邁入婚姻,但又很猶豫
A不知道是否因為成長背景,很多處事不知道該說理性,自私或不通人情?
想請版眾給予點意見參考
A:33y,台灣出生,台德兩國成長,德國就業
(1)A男小時是奶爸媽帶的,
因此通常提到爸媽都是指奶爸媽,
對於親父母都是直呼名字,相敬如冰
只有公開場合才會稱爸媽
回台灣如果住家裡都會給"房租"
陌生人的味道很重
A男對此的說法是 "養育之恩大於天"
"生娘不如養娘大"
根據A男父母的說法,A男不定時會給兩老錢,說是還奶粉錢和教育費
(2)A男"面具感"很重,對社交只認為是有利的情況下維護形象的工具
但無法否認A很有社交手腕
通常不堪的一面只對少數好友及B會坦白
除此之外的朋友,甚至B女雙親幾乎一面倒認為A溫良恭儉讓(舉例)
只是一旦A覺得沒有往來也不影響形象的時候,就會接著徹底封鎖不往來
(3)不知道是否是職業問題
在沒有利害關係的時候(比如非B的朋友或雙親)
A男就不再講求形象,而會變得現實
舉例來說是A男下屬曾因家中喪事影響工作而被A男痛罵開除
B女認為可以體諒,開除太過頭,
A男認為"她家中有事是一回事,影響工作是一回事,這是規定"
"如果我是被人僱用的小主管,因為他害我被主管Fire我跟誰說理?"
以上,其實A男對B女沒有任何不好,
但一些作風又讓B覺得......,
覺得不妥當又說不出哪裡不對
總想矯正一下A男
不知道版眾有什麼建議@@
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