[求助] 另一半家庭複雜該怎麼面對
跟女友一直以來都是以結婚為前提交往
對未來也都有共同目標與憧憬
但突然某天她突然跟我說其實她媽媽在做酒店
她一直都不敢跟任何人說
怕在意的人會離開或是被異樣眼光看待
從小到大一直被媽媽的職業壓得喘不過氣(父母離異)
我們相處得很好 一起解決過許多困難
但我很清楚我的家庭無法接受這樣子的背景
我自己也對那樣複雜的生活很反感
所以是否該選擇放手才是最好的方法?
但又不希望這段感情就這樣被摧毀
因為在女友身上真的完全看不見缺點
該讓對方家庭影響到我們兩人嗎?
需要大家的意見參考
補充:
據我所知她媽每天晚上都過12點回家
包含假日 偶爾會一起吃頓午餐
幾乎每天都是喝醉
我女友說她媽媽男女關係很亂
交友也很複雜
她媽媽自己說朋友隨身帶槍
這些事實如果是所謂的偏見被噓我就認了
我考慮的點是
結婚後不可能不帶她回家
但假如面對的環境是這樣那該如何應對?有人提到老年負擔其實不是問題
問題在於複雜的程度
如果談戀愛不需要考量這些現實我也不會上來問
另外我提到以結婚為前提交往 一開始女友跟我說媽媽是在親戚公司當業務
所以晚回家應酬我也覺得正常
喝酒傷身我也會提醒要關心媽媽的身體
是最近她才告訴我這些問題的
還有提到負債
以及離婚爸爸那邊的問題
這我還沒仔細問下去
原文資訊不足在此補上
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這真的 第一次跟他媽吃飯就有說她朋友隨身帶槍的
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