Re: [心情] 婚前必經之路...同居?
先說結論,很不幸地告訴你,你們不適合結婚,甚至連同居都不適合
※ 引述《winds01066 (Mru<3)》之銘言:
: 各位板友們好,我先自我介紹,
: 我是女生28歲
: 有交往5年多的男友,是遠距離
: 以下正文
: 男友一直希望我們結婚前可以先同居
: 原因是想拉近我跟他們家人的熟悉度
: 另外想藉由同居
: 來了解住在一起會不會有什麼摩擦
: 免得結婚後才發現住在一起不合
: 鬧離婚,搞的你我都難看
: 同居至少沒有婚姻綁住
: 要吵分手至少不會像離婚有什麼紀錄
: 不同居就結婚,他覺得沒有保障
: 如果沒有同居他就無法結婚
這只是他的藉口而已,真正的意思恐怕是想要一個免費的奴隸
如果不在這階段成功洗腦你成為他家的奴隸,否則他就沒辦法跟非奴隸結婚
: 但是我care的點是
: 為什麼要這麼堅持
: 平常見面10次有11次我去找他
: 要他來找我真的比登天還難
重點問題就在這,他不肯去找你,然後其他事情上是否也完全不肯為你做任何事情?
如果是這樣,他前面講的同居問題都只是屁話,他連願意主動去了解你都不肯
真以為同居後他會認真了解你嗎?
現在是因為遠距離互相干擾不多,你們才有機會維持
等同居後,你們互相干擾,你和他家人互相干擾
加上前面的:要他做什麼比登天還難
表示要他保護你為你說話搬出去恐怕有機會比登天還難吧
那你在他家會過得很苦
然後千萬不要妄想結婚後他會變好,根據婚姻板一堆案例來看
結婚後他只會變得更糟不會變好,你自己去想像現在狀況變更糟是什麼樣子
再考慮看看真的值得你搬去他家跟他家人一起住嗎?
: 我家人也一直不諒解這種情況
: 更甚至說同居...
: 甚至說了同居就算順利
: 以後結婚真的就不會遇到婚後才會面對到的問題嗎
: 如果因同居而分手,那我又情何以堪
: 何況認識這麼久
: 難道真的不知道我做人的處事嗎
: 跟他說明後還是覺得一定一定要同居
: 一直輪迴again
: 不過最後男友是稍微有妥協
: 不知道各位覺得呢?
: 難道我真的錯了嗎
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