[求助] 如何挽回女友已經變的心
各位大大,
小弟當初與閃光是公司同事,因而相識而相戀,
到今天2013/10/19剛好滿5週年
其中從熱戀期、磨合、穩定...她與我,一個31歲、我則30歲了
原以為就可以這樣子一值默默步上結婚這條路
可是今年2013/05/01,因為弟弟有先天性心臟病~逼不得已一定要再回榮總開刀
不開的話之後也沒有幾年壽命...
沒想到這一開,也影響我家人與我女友的戀情
因手術中發生意外,導致我弟腦中風,後來就變成類植物人,需要有人照顧...
我也因為這樣子,原本的薪水固定每月可以存下1萬元左右的...
反而快收支兩平,若沒有績效獎金或年終,可能會透支
約兩個禮拜前,他就開始變成另一個人
平常每天都會傳LINE聯繫,變成都不連絡,出去看林書豪的比賽,也感覺生疏了
不會主動想親我、抱我,
今天五週年,因為他之前很喜歡一雙NIKE的鞋子,
我要買來送給他參加路跑並昨晚給他驚喜,他反而覺得我浪費錢...
所以前幾個小時前,就跟他攤牌,他才跟我講...
我女友則眼見我現在的狀況,擔心未來結婚後,
雖然兩人都有上班,可是因為我和他家裡都不富裕,一定要台北/新北租房子
擔心未來,變成只有愛情可是沒有麵包可吃,
當然也有一部份,是因為身邊的同事好友,約30歲左右幾乎都結婚生小孩了,
所以他也急了...覺得年紀大了,該為自己想想,所以考慮要跟我分手
今天原本是要跟他與共同的好朋友去台中出席朋友的喜酒
我也找理由跟共同好友說不去了
因為我們之間的事情沒人知道,所以很怕到時候要裝的感情很好,
可是實際很生疏,雖然我很難過,我也很無助,可是這一切都不我願意的
我後來也跟他說我願意積極的準備婚禮...且因為弟的看護費用
有我媽、我、我舅三人負擔,所以不用怕我負擔不起,
可是他還是沒有改變心意的打算,只跟我說他會好好想想...
這兩個禮拜,因為這樣改變,我大概猜到了,心真的好痛好痛,
只想藉由工作麻醉自己'忘了這件事
可是因為變化太大了,所以還是跟他攤牌了
請問有過來人可以分享經驗,或是教我怎麼挽回女友的心嗎?
謝謝大家 謝謝
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