[心情] 一直想溝通的人很盧消失
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我和女朋友認識了半年多,兩人都有點小超適婚年齡了
所以相處都很好情況下,也計畫要走入下個階段,
但是大約一陣子就會發生同樣的一個問題
就是有時女方會突然莫名的心情低落,身為另一半的我當然都會有所察覺
幾次在電話中察覺到他語氣的不對勁,我就會問她:怎麼啦?怎麼悶悶的?
但是她卻總是回答:沒事啊!
平常我已經習慣用引導她的方式跟她溝通,所以最後也都會發現她的確是有心事
但是唯獨有件事情他怎麼也不願意去吐露,當我試著再用緩和的方式去詢問她時
她總會以沉默 或是假裝沒聽到而回答:嗄? 來躲避回話
其實有時一場溝通下來,常常需要一個小時以上
而她的沉默或假裝沒聽到一直在發生,最後只告訴我,現在她不願意講
因此我也不再逼她了,我幾次都告訴她,沒關係,那等你有天想說的時候再告訴我吧
一直到昨天,面對她同樣的躲避方式,我突然覺得,為什麼想跟一個人溝通會這麼累
我心中有點不悅,我冷冷的說:你這樣讓我很沒安全感,不想說那就不要說吧!
她回:那去睡覺囉!
我:掰掰!(掛電話)
掛電話後我到她住的地方,但她不願意見我,因此兩個人用簡訊繼續溝通了一會
但她簡訊中有句賭氣似的說你並不多麼懂我,我也並不多麼懂你,讓我心裡很是難受,
我其實以為兩個人在一起到某個階段,應該能夠將很多事情坦承
畢竟愛一個人,他過去的好與不好的是,都應要能去接受,
但是對於一再閃躲溝通,時間久了,我也會感到疲憊
(因為很多時候我都是這樣的方式跟她溝通的,最後靠自己拼圖拼湊幫她把事情說出來)
她昨天的簡訊,讓我開始思考,我原本的想法是對的嗎?
兩個人在一起,有必要什麼都要說? 還是應該選擇讓她把一些事情放在心裡呢?
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