Re: [求助] 談錢傷感情
我是原PO 謝謝大家的意見。
原文可能沒寫清楚
我會覺得他花錢太兇的原因:
1. 他的學貸其實不多 大概十多萬,免兵役,所以大學畢業後就開始工作
不用給家用。
2. 買衣服的頻率是每個月都2~3件,但不是太貴的,一件都約$2000左右。
但除了衣服外,包包、鞋子這類的物品,也是很常買。
像是手錶,明明一月才買,三月看到喜歡的就又下標了,
他已經有四.五隻錶了,
問他為什麼要買這麼多錶 他的回答是 搭配用。
平均置裝費約6000~10000/月。
3.結婚的議題是他提出的,因他很喜歡小孩,想要盡快生小孩。
只是我的回答是,想等經濟穩定,因不管婚禮或是養孩子都要錢。
的確婚禮是我想要的,但我沒有要聘金,也沒要什麼儀式,
只是希望能有個婚宴告訴大家我結婚了,
且也願意負擔一半的婚禮費用,
我也有說不要辦的很豪華,之所以會擔心不夠,
是因為他的家人已移民至國外,且他的媽媽也說結婚一定要辦婚禮,
只是婚禮費用需由我們自行負擔。包含親人的機票錢,
所以才會覺得很吃緊。(因看結婚版,大家都說結婚要花很多錢?? )
4.固定花費大概就每年需出國探親一次,
故每年會有一筆50000~80000的旅遊(探親)花費。
這筆是沒辦法的花費,所以我絕對沒對這個說過任何一句話。
甚至他要回鄉之前,我也鼓勵他買些東西回去送父母,我不知道為什麼會有
「我不是要他節省,是要他什麼都不準買」的結論。
我從來沒嫌棄過他沒有錢這件事,所以才願意一起努力。
我的努力方式是努力存錢,早點完成結婚生孩子的目標。
他假日喜歡去吃好的,我也很願意。我覺得這是為了「兩個人」的感情,
所以約會的錢不能省。
只是,就是因為必要花費已經這麼多了,那「非必要」花費難道不該省一點嗎??
他對我真的很好,除了金錢觀外,我也不考慮換人,
其實我應該問的是,
以男生而言,他這樣是真的有想跟我結婚嗎?
有時候我會不禁想 他是不是已經吃定我已經不會跑了 所以才這麼有恃無恐?
還是我真的像版友們說的,太煩太誇張了???
謝謝。
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