Re: [寶寶] 被當負面教材
我們三兄妹從小就是所謂的「負面教材」,不過是由我媽主動提供給親戚朋友的
我媽媽就是很傳統「謙虛」的那種媽媽,每次別人稱讚我們好乖,她永遠都說「哪裡乖了
!她啊都……(講我們一些不好的地方而且超誇大)」然後再反誇對方孩子
我從不記得她肯定過我什麼,她曾說「我才不像那個xx阿姨咧,那種事有什麼好拿出來誇
的啊!」
可是我好羨慕那個xx阿姨的小孩啊……
這樣長大的我,發現自己……
1.面臨別人的讚美很不知所措,總是說「噢沒有啦……」「我沒這麼厲害啦」
2.很沒自信,不敢肯定自己
3.就算自己吃虧受委屈,也沒辦法硬起來捍衛自己,總是「讓」著別人
4.團體工作一有什麼失敗會先檢討自己,永遠把自己定位在一鍋粥裡的老鼠屎
現在都34了,我還是困在裡面走不出來……T_T
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都有面臨讚美不知道怎麼回應&無法捍衛自己的症狀
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拍拍~
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真的很難,所以我也在學怎麼適度稱讚孩子
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請她分我一點自信~
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※ 編輯: loveKCO (49.214.132.166), 04/05/2017 12:33:50
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沒錯!親戚聚會就是隱善揚惡發表會呀!我們都躲起來……
※ 編輯: loveKCO (49.214.132.166), 04/05/2017 12:40:06
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如果是我我應該也不知道該怎麼反應吧,媽媽本身有自覺到這問題,就是在保護孩子了(
有的媽媽會順勢貶低孩子)
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我希望媽媽不用稱讚我們沒關係,不過不要否認別人對我們的稱讚……
※ 編輯: loveKCO (49.214.132.166), 04/05/2017 14:56:33
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真的把醜事掏心掏肺的講耶~有時候阿姨會說反駁說不會啦,他們很乖呀,就會換來更深
層的壞事分享啊
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拍拍,我媽是沒跟老師宣揚,該慶幸一下
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※ 編輯: loveKCO (1.161.230.133), 04/05/2017 17:54:23
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