[寶寶] 跟老公教養觀念不同求解
雙胞胎女寶皆已經出院回家照顧,目前1M6D,
跟老公分隔兩地中,平常我自己一打二+我媽下班後幫忙,
老公只要休假就回來找我,這邊要先感謝老公,
一直跟我說他放假來找我時我就可以好好休息他照顧寶寶就好,
事實上也是,昨天晚上老公一直要我睡覺他來顧寶寶,
瞇了一會姊姊開始哭鬧,發現是尿布濕了,
兩姊妹都是一放上尿布台就會哭鬧不休的個性,
所以我自己在照顧時,都會盡量手腳快一點,讓寶寶快點換好尿布回到床上休息,
結果昨天晚上姊姊哭鬧,我瞇著眼睛看到老公把姊姊抱上尿布台,
然後過了一陣子,我發現姊姊仍然在哭,而且越哭越兇,
我又瞇眼看了一下尿布台,發現老公沒在換尿布,而是拿著安撫奶嘴安撫姊姊,
我很不解,但因為老公願意照顧,我不想下指導棋,就繼續睡不理他,
結果姊姊越哭越淒慘,我實在受不了了(這種哭法我也根本無法好好休息啊QQ)
我就跟老公解釋了一下寶寶不喜歡放在尿布台的感覺,
所以才會哭鬧,我的經驗以及建議是,我們快點把會讓寶寶不舒服的動作(換尿布)做好,
趕快讓寶寶回到床上休息這樣寶寶就舒服了不會哭鬧了,
老公點頭沒有說話。
接著又睡了一下,換妹妹哭鬧,也是尿布濕了,
我又看到我老公把妹妹報到尿布台,然後又是一樣過了一陣子,
妹妹越哭越淒慘,睜眼只看到老公沒在換尿布同樣在拿安撫奶嘴安撫寶寶,
我整個傻了,等老公幫妹妹換好尿布後我忍不住問他,
為什麼要在尿布台上安撫寶寶,不先趕快把尿布換好呢?
我老公冷冷回了我一句:
"你有看過寶寶換尿布邊換邊笑的嗎?"
我:".........(???!!!)"
我:"我沒看過啦,因為我都換很快,換完寶寶不哭就回去睡了...."
老公:"我有在網路上看到人家幫寶寶換尿布寶寶邊換邊笑的影片,
我就不相信為什麼那個小孩可以邊換邊笑,我的小孩就不行..."
我:"...........寶貝~每個小孩子的個性跟氣質不同啊~"
老公聽完依舊是沈默。
再晚一點,又是寶寶哭鬧換尿布的情形,以上流程又跑了一遍,
寶寶在尿布台上哭得聲嘶力竭,我也沒辦法好好睡,
此時我實在忍不住就直接唸了一句:
"要訓練他笑你早上訓練好不好,現在就先趕快換一換讓她睡覺~"
然後老公就爆炸了...
說我口氣很差讓人聽了很不爽,
我有很認真的跟他道歉,當下我真的是有點不知道該怎麼辦才好,
但我老公很堅持他自己的做法不想改變,他對於寶寶哭很無感,
覺得哭就哭啊~我一樣要照我的方式走~
但是這就跟他一開始說他來照顧寶寶讓我休息的原意不符合了啊...
想請問版友,遇到這種情況如何有智慧地化解老公的堅持呢?
還是我就不要理他讓他自己去實驗呢?
謝謝!
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my head spins around and around for you
Yeah you.
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