[心情] 岳母都不表態,我跟老婆怎麼辦?消失
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由於上篇發文急於發表所以沒有詳細敘述,下列文中本人爸媽稱之家父、家母,女友媽媽
稱之岳母。
事情是這樣的,由於女友懷孕了,當然要告訴家父、家母這個喜訊,家父、家母聞訊後表
示相當開心,家父提及要到女友家做個拜訪,家父說:[你女友懷孕了,說甚麼都該到對方
家做個拜訪,免得讓對方認為我們家沒誠意,所以你先詢問何時方便前往拜訪。],隨後我
也告知女友,家父、家母欲到府辦訪一事,女友也有跟岳母提及此事,但由於岳母在教會
服務所以星期六、日比較沒空,所以我也向家父、家母告知,家父、家母表示讓岳母那邊
先忙完再告知我們,過了數日我想起若是到時要請陪產假只能是配偶才能請,然後沒登記
的話小孩出生時父親的欄位會標註[不詳],到時再去更改又很麻煩,所以我才會提及登記
一事,女友表示岳母希望她改姓,所以要等改完姓再去登記,我就說:[ok阿,那有確定要
改了嗎?],女友表示還不確定,之後回到家後家父、家母又提及到時女友生完要在哪坐月
子?
我說:[在她家坐月子阿。],
家母說:[為何不在我們家坐月子?],
我說[我不想我女友吃傳統的月子餐,又油膩又不健康。],
家母又問:[做完月子小孩我來顧。],
我就說:[不行,岳母想照顧,況且小孩要喝母奶一定要跟在媽媽身邊,岳父早逝想說小孩
子能陪陪她,這樣她才不會無聊。再者你又有爸爸能陪妳,我岳母又沒人陪。]
家父就說:[妳岳母要照顧可以,我們不能沒幫忙到,所以我們這邊會資助寶寶的生活開銷
,一~五寶寶在她家六日回來我們家。你女友產後可以留在娘家附近工作,但六日要跟寶寶
一起回來。]
我就說:[沒問題。]
隨後我也將討論的結果跟女友說了,她也答應了。
兩個月過去了,家父又再提及前往拜訪一事,我也再次詢問女友。
女友說:[前幾天我也有問我媽說,有確定時間讓對方父母親來拜訪了嗎?],
岳母:[...................]
女友又說:[那有確定要改姓嗎?確定的話我要去改了,改完就要先登記了。]
岳母依然:[.................]
岳母都未表態,女友跟我都有壓力存在。
女友說:[不要再問了,我媽一直不說答案,我很煩。乾脆別登記了,到時我不爽,我就帶
小孩遠走高飛。]
[先謝謝大家先前的建議,我的出發點是到時雙方都和諧,不是聽爸媽的話就是媽寶,我只
是尊重,並不會有{有了媳婦忘了娘}的想法,結婚是件喜事盡可能要皆大歡喜,再來小弟
今年30女友36我們都有正常的收入,謝謝。]
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