[閒聊] 被岳父不爽了
看板marriage作者musicanuda (musicanuda)時間7年前 (2017/04/10 01:18)推噓50(61推 11噓 98→)留言170則, 87人參與討論串1/2 (看更多)
是否同意記者抄文:NO
老婆說,岳父在自家對我有諸多批評責罵,在小孩教養方面
故事背景是前幾日的清明及兒童連假
岳父母到台南找孫子玩耍
因為是目前唯二的兩個孫子,其中老大還被外公帶回照顧過幾個月
所以非常放任寵愛
大家也知道小孩很聰明,在外公面前一定特別放縱搗蛋
玩得超嗨,把平常的規矩丟在一旁
於是遭到我大聲斥罵、甚至拿起愛的小手警告
事後岳父和岳母在自家批評(不是在我面前)
怎麼可以對孫子這麼凶、罵的聲音這麼大聲,孫子真可憐
聽老婆轉述後,覺得好氣又好笑
生氣的是,平常我們辛苦管教小孩,你們來把規矩弄壞,還好意思說三道四?
好笑的是,街坊鄰居、幼稚園老師都知道我們家老大平常跟我最好、最黏我
只有岳父母幻想孫子整天被我霸凌
但轉念一想
這不就是婚姻版最經典的家庭管教糾紛嗎?
如果我身為爸爸的角色成變成媽媽、
寵溺孫子的從外公外婆變成爺爺奶奶,
當媳婦的管教被公婆批評的時候,她該怎麼辦?
還能像我這樣好氣好笑、不以為意嗎?
我們雖強調男女在婚姻中平權平等
但現實就是媳婦在小孩管教方面,受到公婆箝制的壓力
就是遠大於女婿與岳父母之間
我可以不理岳父母、轉頭繼續罵小孩
但一個媳婦當下恐怕只能忍著、事後再行補救作法
不禁認真思考,媳婦在小孩管教的話語權
在亞洲傳統觀念下,該靠自己爭取、或者先生的維護呢?
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