[討論] 如何與自尊極強的老公相處(代po)
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文長,又是芝麻小事,但內心就是過不去
老公很傳統,自尊強,敏感
但又是個很照顧孩子的好爸爸
家事他全部分擔還做的比我多
只是遇到觸及他自尊的地雷時,他我常感到莫名其妙,我也饜不下這口氣
今天約好下班互通電話告知回家時間
我進入捷運電梯時撥號
但突然有事分心
(電梯內的人急按關,不顧外面有推嬰兒車的媽媽與老人)
我急著開門就忘了電話已接通
老公接起聽到我在與他人嘻笑(?)的聲音
應該是我與那位媽媽詢問孩子多大了
等我出電梯才想起,重撥
老公劈頭就說:剛剛妳為何通了不說話?很沒禮貌!
我委婉解釋:剛剛在電梯中以為訊號斷了,所以沒注意到
他就掛我電話
我想表達的是,一件很微小的事
都可瞬間發展成這樣
我感到不被給與體諒的空間
正常人會因為這樣發脾氣嗎?
我的脾氣也沒有很好,通常都是我踩到他地雷,他發脾氣我就會立刻也被激怒
所以我傳訊說:
很少人像我受到這樣對待吧,為什麼無心的事要被苛責掛電話,你也會電話到一半突然有
人找,我會說什麼嗎
回家後果然他臉色鐵青無比,要找我算帳的臉
我說當時在電梯的原委,他則說
我常常打給他,他接起來都聽到在與人嬉鬧
(因我扣他免費,所以他有事扣我時,我就會立刻掛上接著回撥。又因為我在上班,一切
都要迅速,當然可能發生我跟女同事們正聊天,接通時他聽到我與他人對話聲。但怎麼想
,我都沒有很離譜,他這種個性我那趕很離譜)
他不斷強調因為我常常這樣,導致他今天認為我又是如此
請問我的行為真的不夠尊重他嗎?
該怎麼溝通讓他能像一般人有緩和有同理心?站在他人角度多包容與同理心?
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