[閒聊]坐月子
各位好,我是今年年底就要成為孩子爸的準爸爸,最近因為坐月子的事遇到些問題,想麻
煩婚姻版板友傳指導在下碰到這樣的問題時該怎麼處理才能比較圓滿。
事情是這樣的...
婚前,因為自己的爸媽對女方爸媽提出的聘禮形式、迎娶方式等頗有微詞,一直對娘家的
岳父母心存莽蒂,但因為兩家於我的上代有結親過,對於結婚這事並不想有太多枝節,所
以婚禮也算是圓滿落幕,但我媽媽雖然於事後嘴上跟我說不在意,但總是常常會不小心脫
口說出「我感覺你好像是入贅到他家...明明我們才是主人等等...」。
我的老婆到今天已經懷孕六個月了,原先我們已經講定好要在婆家坐月子,但在我爸今年
七月份診斷出大腸癌第四期以後似乎一切都有了些改變。首先,媽媽需要照顧爸爸的身體
會變得非常的沒空,雖然我一下班便會前往輪替照顧,但她的負擔還是不少,因此我的老
婆帕婆婆會沒時間照顧她,便想拜託我的岳母在娘家幫她坐月子,再與我討論後我也同意
了他的看法,原因有幾點:
1.環境的熟悉,相對的減少心裡的負擔與壓力。
2.我的媽媽有酗酒習慣,雖不會打人鬧事,但常常事情丟著跑去睡。
3.我家的格局屬於路衝,雖說我不信風水...但娘家相信我也就從善如流。
但我的岳母給了我們一個訊息,要幫坐月子可以,前提是我們的長輩(也就是我的爸媽)需
要親自打電話去告知我們家裡因為爸爸生病無法分兼顧幫媳婦坐月子,他認為這是該有的
禮儀與尊重,但之後我向我媽轉達這訊息時,我媽便直接回我「不可能」,他說她的孫子
是跟我們姓不是跟他們姓,月子丟給女方做像話嗎?她不想被女方那邊的親友說閒話,並
告知我:「你可以請娘家坐月子,該補貼給娘家的錢她也會給,但就是要她去拜託娘家幫
忙坐月子這件事他做不到,因為實在是很沒面子」,聽完後我也沒和自己爸媽爭執,因為
當下我也還不曉得該如何處理,想說保留點緩衝空間。
月子的話,沒意外我應該是讓老婆在娘家做,但問題在於岳母的要求以及自己媽媽的堅持
,想請問一下如果是板友們會怎麼處理這件事?
PS:我曾表示要出錢讓老婆去住月子中心,但兩方爸媽都不肯(覺得吃的不好),加上我老
又很聽他媽的話,所以我也沒轍...
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