Re: [心情] 結婚的感想
※ 引述《laptopkimo (單純上班族)》之銘言:
: 結婚也快兩年了,和太太還沒有小孩,這些日子來其實我沒有一天是快樂的,很後悔結婚
: ,感覺和想的都不一樣,老婆是個很強勢不好溝通的人,每當有爭執時,老婆總是大吼大
: 叫,因為怕吵到別人,我都隱忍退讓,說真的我覺如果無法達成共識就冷戰就好,但老婆
: 有強烈控制慾,總是一定要照她意思做才行,不然又大叫大吼,其實我滿無奈的,如果能
: 當個有名無實夫妻,我也可以接受,如果不想離婚的話,重要場合演演戲不要讓父母擔心
: ,只要互相不要管雙方太多,說真的我好希望回到以前單身日子,或許我不適合婚姻,我
: 也沒有想怪誰,只是不希望日子在吵架中及別人控制中度過
我也在藉這一篇文章講一下我最近的婚姻生活好了
如同PO對結婚的感想,「很後悔結婚」這也是我老公的感想
而且我老公還當著我的面跟我說了約三、四次,說不尷尬是騙人的
當場真的很難堪,感覺自己就是那個讓別人頭痛惹人厭的人
不過那幾次我都是笑笑點點頭說:這樣啊~
跟原PO不同的是,我們有兩個小孩了~
在結婚前我們也都沒有爭執過什麼,因為當時真的沒什麼好吵的~
只是婚後真的不再一樣了~也許婚前不在意的事情,婚後都變的好重要
記得在結婚以為,有一次我們開車出去玩,當時的男朋友(現在的老公)看到一個正妹
眼神就往那位正妹那裡飄過去,我就說:挖~~~男生果然是視覺的動物耶~~
老公就說:對啊~其實女生只要漂亮,什麼都不會也沒有關係
這是我老公當時說的,但是現在結婚後,有了兩個小孩,我什麼都必須要會
要會煮飯(我婚前從沒煮過)、整理整個家....
我說我不會,我一定被罵:說不會就沒事了嗎?你不會去問啊~~現在網路這麼方便!!
所以我明白了~婚前婚後他對我的要求不一樣了
我偶爾也想過:要是現在單身多好啊!!我可以到處去玩(我本身有工作,並不靠老公養)
可是我如果現在真的是單身,我應該也是會嚮往婚姻生活~
所以人就是這麼矛盾,不管選擇什麼都會後悔
最近看了一些書和文章(我的想法,不是在宣教)
裡面說了:婚姻是神所設立的,神配合的,人不可以分離
還說了:愛是恆久忍耐、又有恩慈,愛是不求自己的益處,是不輕易發怒
凡事盼望、凡事相信
當然,在婚姻裡面受傷的人還要這樣愛配偶真的很難做到
但是神以永遠的愛先來愛我們了,接受上帝這愛湧流的人才能以這樣的愛來愛自己的配偶
我們要在基督裡赦免配偶的冒犯,不陷於撒旦藉著婚姻問題精心佈下的網羅。
所以我現在要做的就是:先把自己管好
要改變對方真的太困難了,改變自己還比較容易
也許配偶看到我們的改變,他也就真的改變了~
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