娘家媽媽的焦慮
長期在婚姻版潛水,受益匪淺,最近家裡發生一點小事,寫出來純分享
我(女)結婚近三年,最近懷孕了,我娘好高興,明確表示很想幫我帶小孩,
儘管我拿各種情況跟她說明帶小孩真的很累,她都說沒關係沒關係,
整個呈現一種手舉高高奮力大叫"選我選我選我"的狀態
(當然有跟我說好,拿一點錢意思意思,但錢不是本篇重點)
前幾天我跟他說寶寶是女生,她就變得怪怪的,昨天甚至直接跟我說
她不要幫我帶小孩了,因為是女生,她不喜歡!!
我聽了傻眼,因為從小我娘身體力行男生女生一樣好,
我的成長過程從來沒有過任何重男輕女男女不平等的事情,
父母偏心男孩對我來說是外星人事件,都是聽聽而已跟我不相干,
我不懂為何我娘突然變身外星人......??????
當場我很不爽,對我娘發飆了一下,
回家想想事關重大,還是要跟老公商量,
(當然我老公不在意男孩女孩)
雖然我不希望老公對娘家父母印象變差(重男輕女又出爾反爾),但還是實說了
並且也實說我不懂我娘為何在意我生男生女更勝於在意我弟弟????
沒想到老公說:
我媽媽需要一點時間消化她的焦慮,因為對父母來說,
女兒是嫁到別人家,好壞父母無法控制,會更加擔心,
不管現代社會怎樣,父母年紀大觀念很難改,因為疼愛女兒又怕使不上力很難不焦慮
再加上我娘出身於重男輕女很嚴重的家庭,又會更焦慮了~
想當初我小姑生女孩時,我婆婆也是焦慮到一個不行,
成天叫我小姑再生再生,深怕沒有男孩對夫家不好交代導致女兒被虧待了
阿...原來是這樣啊~我媽不是被外星人附身,她只是不懂如何表達她的焦慮
忽然之間我就放下了...呵呵~
(當然眼淚還是要掉幾滴,順便賺幾個老公抱抱這樣)
以上給有類似困擾的人參考參考,
祝大家平安順利
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