[心情] 前幾天阿姨跟我分享她當年的婚姻選擇
上星期日住中部的阿姨來台北玩,順便帶表妹們一起,
言談之中就順便聊起她當年的一些往事
她在讀書時,跟一個男生十分要好,那個男生長得外表英俊,也會講好聽話哄她,
而且常常帶她到處兜風,上山下海,在那時候,他們兩愛得很甜蜜,
我阿姨當時幾乎認定那男生是她的第一志願選擇
可是,很多事都會變,現實面的問題不能不考量,過去戀愛交往時的'第一志願',
結婚成家的時候迫於現實,常常都不會去選擇所謂第一志願,
那個男生上進,但家境不好,母親也生病了,他書只讀到高職夜間部後
就因經濟因素無力繼續讀,服役後也因學歷不高,沒法找到收入太好的工作,
後來我阿姨幾經考量後,雖很同情那男生的處境,但還是忍痛跟他分了,
轉而嫁給另一個家境,經濟能力較好的對象,雖然他有點大男人,
而且不像之前那個如此體貼,可我阿姨說了一句:他是這副調調,
至少錢還會給我管理,我也幫他好好理財,也生了小孩,且成功養育到大,
重點是組家庭時,最該考慮的是什麼? 經濟能力才是王道啊,沒有一定的經濟基礎,
管你之前愛得多甜蜜,最後還是會三不五時起衝突啊,你知道以前跟我在一起的那男生,
後來幹什麼嗎? 開計程車,如果我跟他真的走入家庭,結果會怎麼樣可以想得到
只能說,選擇對象也是一種機會成本,只要牽涉到機會成本,就會陷入現實面的決擇,
更何況還是關係到後半生的事,在人不為己天株地滅下,大概也只能往現實面靠攏,
我阿姨當初選擇另一個人時,她也痛苦了好一陣子,不過她當時抱持與其長痛不如短痛,
與其晚痛不如早痛想法,現在回想起來,似乎也覺得還好當初選了那個人吧.
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