最近和男友進入磨合期,各種因意見相左、習慣相異而起的口角越來越多。檢討後發現,
我自己好像有些盲點。
我是一名中學老師,大概是職業病作祟,我好像很習慣用「指導學生」的態勢對待男友。
看到他握筷子的方式不
太標準,就急著「教導」他何為正確的握法,還要耳提面命說,「社會上有很多人都是透
過觀察吃飯的樣子、握筷子的方式來建立對某個人的第一印象,關乎家教和禮節.....bla
h..blah..blah」。
諸如此類的事件很多,還包括用錢的習慣、看待事情的觀點等等,我知道我很雞婆,但也
都自以為是對他好。可是回頭來看,與其說是「指導、教導」,不如說是把我自己的觀念
和習慣強加在他身上。又或者這就是老人家說要門當戶對的道理,最起碼習慣和觀念比較
相近時,摩擦就不會那麼多。
女孩們怎麼看呢?
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