[心情] 要結婚但感覺卻沒很快樂消失
我是男生,家中長子
家裡經濟還算過得去
但我自高二開始就在外打工賺零用錢+生活費(還是住家裡)
高中畢後自認不愛讀書所以決定開始就業
所以從小對於賺取金錢一分一毫格外有感覺
跟交往八年的女友已經選好日子在明年4月要結婚
但日子越接近一天
我的心情卻是越低沉、消極
我想這可能出在雙方家庭的價值觀吧?
目前已經知道的花費
聘金36萬
禮服7萬
辦桌50桌(女方約35桌)
還有一些金飾還沒算進來
這些花費讓我感覺真的有必要嗎?
我平常也不跟家裡拿錢
因為我認為自己要為自己負責
所以結婚這件事我也是這麼認為
但是看到這些花費卻讓我有點縮手甚至覺得恐懼
我真的要在短短幾天內
就把我這幾年的存款一次歸零
(甚至可能還要去做小額借款)
就因為結婚這件事?
一直陷入無限迴圈裡
甚至有時都會有希望意外降臨到我身上的想法
就希望能逃避這一切一走了知
我在朋友或家人的眼中從以前就是一位獨立且樂觀向上的人
所以我一直無法開口尋求幫助
甚至開口詢問有沒有其他辦法
現在講出來了感覺也好些
反正在網路後面沒有人知道我是誰
違反版規就直接桶了吧
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謝謝各位鄉民的意見
回覆量太多請恕我不一一回覆
抱歉!
首先有關回文的一些問題
聘金是36萬全拿含餅錢
(她姐姐當時是58萬)
鑽戒類的已經買完就不算入預估花費金額裡面了
婚紗七萬是高雄 法*** 婚紗拍的
她哥哥姐姐都在那邊拍
都花7-8萬上
桌錢是各付各的
(抱歉前面沒說清楚)
各付各的雖然男女盈虧自負
但是我一想到請來的那些人
50桌約350位長輩
有280位幾乎是未來也沒什麼可能會聯絡的
按照台灣劣俗
因為是我們結婚請客,所以那些人未來也是我們要回禮
感覺很莫名其妙
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