Re: [心情] 與家人溝通
首先感謝大家回應
我也去詢問很多人,也有公司資深如長輩般的同事詢問過
覺得現在就是兩方人對於禮俗認知的差異及事前的溝通不足
因為我爸是南部人,所以他一直覺得結婚很多事就是要提親那天來討論
所以事前詢問了我爸到底有什麼要求也只是大概說也問不出個什麼仔細
那可能男方覺得好像真的沒什麼要求
所以覺得現在突然說要6個人是怎樣
我想不管是不是結婚這件事,也不管是男方女方都很抗拒對方臨時增加些什麼
就像我們家說要提親但我爸臨時想到必須來6個人...
雖然找6個人不是難事,可是就是一個KIMOCHI的問題吧
(因為連我聽到也是傻眼的,當下也是直接跟我爸說怎麼之前不講這樣)
所以男方就覺得說:「現在你們是怎樣,要帶6個人才可以提是不是,你面子很大嗎?」
反正經歷了一陣混亂之後~~
現在打算冷靜一下,回到原點
可能必須要真的拿個紙筆先請我爸寫下來看看到底要做什麼
也好讓男方家有個底,不要讓對方覺得我們都臨時才講事後諸葛。
不過我還有一點擔心的是,如果做了寫下來這個動作
是不是就會被男方家說死,就說確定這樣就這樣
(但我必須說人沒有十全十美,有些事是真的遇到才會想到,覺得應該要有商量的空間)
還有
到底是要寫仔細一點呢
還是寫個大概?(可能就是主要的聘金、餅...大家比較容易想到的東西)
怕給他寫的個太仔細(我還打算上網找完整的流程給我爸看他到底要什麼逐一寫下)
男方第一眼看到還是覺得我們家要求很多
如果只是寫個大概,是不是事後就沒有增減商量的空間
覺得很煩~~
請問女方們到底一開始要怎麼做比較好呢
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