跟男友打算明年結婚,近期準備提親,我先跟家人探探口風,好讓我們有心理準備,問到
結婚我打算出婚紗的錢時,我媽突然跳腳,她說這些本來就是男方要幫女生準備的,我幹
嘛自作主張!
他意思是我們不收聘金,結婚後不用我拿錢回家,嫁妝娘家給你面子看的搬家時幫我們添
些需要的家具電器什麼,結婚我們因為定結一起,女方要準備的只有一些禮俗上要給男方
的東西(像是金子 回禮什麼的)還有我們自己的桌錢,其他都是男生要幫你準備的,我
當下很不能接受,因為朋友結婚好像都不是這樣,但我又不想讓爸媽覺得還沒結胳臂就往
外彎,怕我老爸像上次我說幹嘛要12禮6禮時一樣氣到臉漲紅,於是問了男友他的想法,
好在他覺得多幾十萬就不要吵架,頂多蜜月時我幫忙付多些,我們講好也讓家長不要不開
心,算是圓滿結束。
只是我很好奇,大家結婚女方都負擔哪些部分才合理呢?想要一個心理衡量的標準,出一
些合理的部分,希望家人和對方都滿意
謝謝大家
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※ 編輯: turn329 (118.167.200.15), 03/17/2016 00:08:40
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我爸媽也是這樣的想法
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推t大 好方法
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那如果用新觀念
現在不收聘金 給嫁妝 幫忙負擔一半結婚費用
然後先不管以後有沒有遺產 女生有能力的話婚後賺的錢固定拿一些回家
這樣男生也會跳腳吧
我身為女生也有一點賺錢能力 也會想要奉養自己的父母
現實也就是男生婚後拿錢回家是應該
一樣都在賺錢 還是有落差
所以我覺得不是說老觀念 新觀念 或誰虧大的問題 相信我父母是有為我好的想法 因為我
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