[心情] 門當戶對真的很重要
發泄文~不喜勿看
最近開始準備婚禮~才真正瞭解到為何老一輩總是很講究門當戶對
我們是女方家境優於男方許多~
所以,訂婚和結婚的排場變得很失衡
女方爸爸很愛女兒~希望女兒可以嫁得風風光光
為求方便~文定餐廳選擇城市中的婚宴會館,婚禮佈置、主持人全都一手包辦
而男方的婚宴場地則選在鄉下的餐廳,婚禮佈置、主持人都必須另外找
其高低優劣一眼可見~所以男方家長不太爽
認為女方搶了男方的風頭~
當初說好一切從簡,為何最後搞得如此隆重
但對女方爸爸而言,這一切真的很簡單—就是出錢交由婚顧(會館附的)為你搞定一切
他也知道男方家境較差,所以也不強求對方出多少錢
例如:12禮所費不貲,女方希望男方用現金擔(意思意思給),多的女方可以自行負擔
大小聘最後都會退回
新人的花費也都可以從女方這邊支出
(例如:婚秘、婚紗,反正也是自己女兒得利)
還一直問新郎要不要買表,定做西裝...還是金項鏈要多粗等等
但因為新娘爸爸較傳統~所以該有的儀式(場面)絕對不可少
但這對男方來說似乎還是花費太大了,
而且男方家人也愛面子,堅持實付實支,
卻又一直挑戰新娘這邊的儀式,例如:奉茶(因為要包紅包)
(但紅包也是包給新娘呀~新娘最後也是嫁到你家呀~
這樣錢最後還不是算你家的!!!!)
這讓女方也很為難,不想打壞親家關係,也不想草草了事
但如果全由女方支付,這到底是誰娶誰呀?!
新人更可憐,男方家長嫌婚禮花費高,
甚至翻起舊帳,說當初養新郎就花了多少錢,
現在還跟他們要那麼多,弄得新郎當場跟他們翻臉
(我們沒有一定要由他們支付呀~而且新娘嫁妝也不少,好不好!!!!)
新娘也很無辜,夾在兩家子中間,不敢跟爸爸說這些情況,怕他當場翻臉
只能盡可能省錢了~
說真的~我覺得新人花費已經很省了(以娘家人的角度真的是太客氣了)
婚紗照包套4萬多(定金新郎付,之後在討論)、婚秘2萬多女方出
婚攝找親友
女方婚宴會場什麼都包(女方爸爸的心意,沒得商量)
男方婚宴(男方家長出),新郎自己找主持人(應該也是親友)和婚禮佈置
目前婚佈預算可能會調高點,如果不想訂、結婚落差太大
其餘禮俗用品新人都隨家人意,不過可能又是一番拉鋸戰了
但最嘔的是,連新娘唯一要求必備的結婚對戒
(非12禮中的金戒,預算3萬以內(男女各一),
這要求不過份吧~而且這也是兩人分別替對方出的),
都被男方家長嫌棄毫無價值、浪費錢
如果不是新郎力挺,這婚大概是結不成了吧
不過確定以後和婆家的互動會少很多,朋友恐怕是當不成的
還好新郎保證日後不必與婆婆同住...
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