[心情] 聘金好頭大已回收
最近跟男友在準備婚事,可是第一步遇到的聘金就讓我好心煩...
想來問問大家的意見....
男友家人一直希望我們能開個價,好讓他們有機會能準備
可是偏偏我爸媽就很堅持的說這當然是看他們的能力跟心意
一直希望他們正式來提親後再來談
因為畢竟我是我們家第一個辦喜事的人,沒相關經驗, 他們要直接開價也很難開
而男方是有提到說他們目前沒有過多現金,所以希望我們提供明確數字
讓他們可以有目標的去籌措....
現在卡在中間的我,變得我也不知道怎麼去調解...
偏偏兩方都各持己見..我爸媽也堅持要對方自己開價給我們
偏偏男方因此的態度會變得他們自己開的話,開高沒能力,開低沒面子...
而我自己的態度也希望能讓父母親開心,老公家也不要負擔太重...
變得我對於調解這件事就好焦慮....
我不知道我應該怎麼做才能讓進度繼續進行...
我父母親也是傾像要收聘,但多少都無所謂...
唉....請各位能提供我不同的意見做參考了~~感激不盡!!!!!
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找不到我有勇氣想盡力愛的他...
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我補充一下,我爸媽傾向收聘金還有一個用意!
因為他們覺得我老公不懂得存錢(我也這樣覺得),甚至花錢不會去節省...
所以聘金旗時是打算轉給我當緊急預備金用的(萬一將來我們有需要可以救急用的)
也因為他們這樣的出發點,會讓我很難圓融去做到兩方都滿意...
如果沒有要給我,其實他們沒打算收聘...
另外我們家也是提供親朋好友的例子給男方
只是男方甚至他姐姐還親自來找我,就是希望能有個明確數字
當然他姐姐舉給我聽的例子,就說他們周遭也是很多人沒收聘金之類的...
而我老公自己也說他們自己開價錢的話,開高了負擔不了,開低了他爸媽又沒面子...
PS.聘金轉給我的事,不打算一開始就讓老公他們知道...
※ 編輯: QQpala 來自: 111.254.202.62 (04/13 00:56)
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