[求助] 該不該堅持下去
我和前女友...交往了一年多
彼此都很相愛
我們年紀相當,但她比我早出社會
我們之間有個點很難跨越,女友的家人嫌我沒錢
希望女友的對象至少要有房子
目前我25歲,房子當然也是我的目標
但絕對不是短時間能達成的(至少要30歲吧)
當然一開始我會覺得女方家人怎麼那麼勢利(很賭爛)
但看看她們家境也能稍稍體諒
她們是單親家庭,從小母親很辛苦的把他們三個孩子養大
也因為較為郊區,所以思想上也比較傳統
做媽媽的當然希望女兒將來好過,於是對於錢這方面會比較注重
說到我自己,我的家人都是公務員退休,說不上有錢,但也不愁吃穿就是
那我自己本身有買一台二手車代步,也有在存錢,為未來規劃
除了經濟上面仍在努力,其餘的我能做就盡量做
因為女友比我晚下班, 而回家我又不希望她太累
所以家事我能做就做,也會煮飯讓她吃飽點
儘管很多優點讓她很愛我,但她家人總會給她壓力要她快跟我分
剛開始時她隻字未提,直到某天晚上她泣不成聲
經我追問才知道家庭給她的壓力是如此頻繁
雖然她也幫我講話,但她家人似乎還是因為經濟這點很反對
她也曾要我不要對她那麼好,說根本找不到我這樣的人(語畢兩人擁抱痛哭
但現實是殘酷的,因為她很孝順,所以她選擇聽媽媽的話
那我自己滿後悔的是,沒有找她們家人好好聊聊
於是乎,經歷了一年的風風雨雨
最終我們還是邁向分手之路
儘管現在兩人彷彿陌生人般,我對於跟她的感情也不再強求
只是有時想到她,心中還是會泛起陣陣漣漪
今天心血來潮PO了這篇,也說明我還是會想挽回的吧
只是要挽回,絕對不是我跟他說了算就能解決的
想請問各位版友們,該如何擬訂教戰手則呢?
主要還是在想要怎麼跟她家人說明我絕對不會讓她吃苦
同時也希望她家人放心
心中五味雜陳,排版、說詞可能有點奇怪
還希望各位見諒
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啊!
大家別吵起來呀
謝謝各位給予的建議,我相信大家都有不同的境遇
也會有不同的觀念與想法,希望大家能彼此尊重囉!
的確我必須把口頭上這些化為現實
當然不只為了她們,我也為了自己而努力
某位版友說得很好
"和她談的是感情,和其他人則是談現實"
只是此時要堅持我們的感情
卻又拿不出東西給她家人看
這點我挺苦惱的...
※ 編輯: wavel (114.41.253.177), 09/19/2015 12:49:59
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