該如何改進我的行為
就在剛剛我又被兇了,我沒有要討拍的意思,只是想請大家提點我是哪裡錯了
男友生病發燒,全身無力頭昏腦漲。
在晚上七點半見面後,我問了他還不舒服嗎?他說還好
吃完飯回家看電視,我看到床頭櫃放了盤子,問他怎麼在房間吃東西?不怕有螞蟻嗎?他
回答:我告訴過你我早上就發燒人不舒服所以躺著吃東西,你都沒在聽我說話。當下我回
答:我以為是在中午燒起來的。(問題一)如果又要他講一便會太過分嗎?
再來,他小眯一下後起來,我看他眉頭深鎖,想說又是哪裡不舒服,蠻緊張的問他:怎麼
了?哪裡不舒服嗎?他吼我說:就告訴你我人不舒服,為什麼要一直問同樣問題?不煩嗎
?
我被他嚇到,我承認我有點玻璃心,所以當下衝回房間哭。他進房要把我轉來面向他(當
下是真的蠻想一個人哭發洩出來的)然後又被吼說轉過來。嗯是還蠻不情願的轉過去抱他
。
他說:不要哭,告訴我為什麼要哭,我們講開好嗎?(重覆三次)
我說:幹嘛?有什麼好說的?
他說隨便你,他就看電視,我去洗澡
洗澡完他說:有什麼好生氣的?可以不要照你想法走嗎?不開心就擺臉色,被兇一下就哭
。
(問題二)請問我對他的反應會過分嗎?我是真的覺得關心他被兇,不關心他又說我冷血
。
現在搞得我對他真的心灰意冷...希望大家可以教我如何放開心胸去解決問題!
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我當然知道生病不舒服,被吵是很煩的事情,因為我現在就是扁桃腺化膿說不出話的狀態
。再來我生病不會希望人家安慰我,因為我的病不會因此改善,我當然傾向安靜休養,會
在他臉色不好問他是因為他心臟也不好,我想了解「到底」是哪裡不舒服,還是應該就場
面話帶過嗎?看他要不要喝水還是吃藥,直接被吼就只好摸摸鼻子這樣囉?還是要笑哈哈
說對不起我太笨了是我不對?還是煮個粥泡個茶按摩呢?我就不相信你被吼可以馬上開心
起來,還繼續抱著互相安慰咧
※ 編輯: zyoume00 (115.43.142.113), 09/11/2015 01:34:51
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你所謂的輕輕點出來是玻璃人?煩透了?這些都是情有可原的話吧,感謝你們。其實我也
不知道抓時間點到底怎麼抓才可以兩全其美,因為抓不對會被兇,不抓又會被唸不貼心,
我真的覺得很困擾,現在我都不會跟他玩鬧,頂多他開玩笑哈哈附和,我真的怕又被罵幼
稚不成熟之類的話,怕戳到他的點又會爆炸...真心想請教這該不會要慢慢來並讓時間教
導
我吧?還是有讓我更加融會貫通的方法。另外,剛打的是在情緒上,畢竟旁觀者清囉
※ 編輯: zyoume00 (115.43.142.113), 09/11/2015 03:51:14
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原來我好煩好囉嗦 謝謝大家 我會馬上放生的喲!感謝大家的提點!非常受用立馬打醒我
!
※ 編輯: zyoume00 (123.193.214.99), 09/12/2015 01:56:26
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