[求助] 怎麼好好勸男友不要同居?
和男友交往了一年半多,也同居一年左右了,同居生活一開始雖然甜蜜,但也不過持續了一個多月,
之後我們就常常吵架一直至今。我認為我不是個很容易沈住氣的人,常常因為男友的關係會無法好好規劃自己的作息,甚至好幾次的大吵我會很崩潰,我會怪男友讓我變成這樣。但男友永遠也不會先示弱,所以常常在這樣的精神轟炸循環下,我身體變很差(也因為作息不同、男友常常用電腦晚睡,我也跟著睡不著),幾乎每天都2、3點才睡著。
有試圖在平常時後說服男友搬回家去住,但是每提必吵,他覺得我只是在牽拖,他認為我想分居就是在排擠他、趕他走。我一再解釋我動機根本不是如此,他也知道我身體差,但我提了好幾次的分居每次必定吵到天翻地覆。後來一次我鐵了心叫他一定要走、他超級生氣,摔東西一邊收,還一直罵我賤人,一定是想去外面做壞事之類的,叫我看著辦。後來收尾便是我抱著死拉著他,說我錯了,請他別走別生氣。
就這樣,我每次的溝通便是如此下場。我真的很痛苦。
我和他因為同居衍生的問題真的很多,因為家事分配而看彼此不順眼,我會想管制他使用電腦的時候間,若他不聽我會擺臉給他看。
我自認我不是什麼獨立自主的女生,也不是能完全自然的不管他規劃自己生活的人,甚至不是個有大度量的女生。男友亦然,
同居對我來說讓我喘不過氣甚至想分手了之,但我真的無法勸退男友。
要怎麼讓我們能和平的分居
同居的這些情緒是我單方面的怪罪他嗎?
或是我們能怎麼改善彼此生活上的差異?
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