[求助] 我還愛我男友嗎?還是剩親情?
坦白說,這個標題很蠢,
我也知道這種問題沒人能代替自己回答,
但如今我走到了一個不知所措的路口….
即使我知道會被噓爆,還是決定PO文。
我和男友相戀多年,
兩人的相處也很多甜蜜的時候,
但我愛當小女人,卻不愛他當小男生跟我撒嬌….
聊天的時候,他常常冷不防開一些性方面的玩笑,讓我不舒服….
總之,我常常覺得他的很多行為和思考模式都讓我不能認同,
但因為愛他,通常選擇包容或鼓勵的態度應對,
但其實,這會削減我對他的愛戀
其中最不能認同的有二,
1他有些好高鶩遠,他想要考上公務員,不過有時很努力,有時整個放鬆。
2他的思考很負面,例如他看到考古題自己不會,就一直哀怨他一定考不上,
因為之前已有過兩次挫敗經驗,以致他信心喪失
我安慰他,跟他說未必一定要考公務員,但他說,除此之外他不知道要幹嘛。
最近他家人出了問題,常常要他居中協調,
他心裡因此很怨懟家人吃掉了他讀書的時間。
常常,他一提到他爸,就埋怨不停,常說些自暴自棄的話。
長久以來相處上的幾個不滿意的點,加上最近他的負面悲觀情緒,
讓我感到對彼此的未來沒信心。
這時候,我遇到的一個男生,代稱A好了,
我和A認識很久,但近一個月才開始有聊天,
A的職業雖然和我截然不同,
但A工作表現認真,優異,
個性陽光開朗,
至少我目前是這樣的感覺,
而A也特別注意我,嘗試著打探我的一些狀況,
(不過A沒問過我有沒有男友,所以他不知道我有沒有男友)
看到我時,總是有些緊張;跟我講話時,又總是露出很開心的笑容,
於是,我承認,我精神外遇了。
最近兩三個禮拜,我常被這樣分裂的情緒困擾,
想到男友,覺得很沉重,不快樂,開始不想讓他碰,
想到A,想到彼此互動的種種,我不自覺得開心,開始想如何可能進一步認識。
於是,我感到,我對男友只剩下多年相處下來的親情,
看到他脆弱,痛苦,覺得很心疼,
但當他碰我,我感到我不喜歡,我好像真的變心了….
於是,我想分手,
尤其不想讓他碰的感覺,讓我想把提分手的時間往前移
但男友很愛我,很需要我,如果看他因為分手崩潰,我也會很傷心…
只好一直想著如何說,可以把傷害降低….
甚至,分手後繼續像親人或朋友那樣關心他。
然後,我可能會對A更積極一點…..
(這些想法近日一直盤旋在我腦海)
沒想到,今天男友打電話給我,
他突然變得積極正向許多,
他說他想通了,
要更努力準備考試,
並具體說明會把哪些不必要的時間浪費排除,
也說要減少跟我見面,增加讀書時間。
聽他這麼說,我感覺很複雜…..
很高興他這麼想,很高興看到他變樂觀,也想繼續支持他到考完試,
也對自己的精神出軌感到焦慮….
我感到,我對男友的感情很深,放不下他,但似乎已不是愛情,
我和A,彼此不算了解,可是他卻不斷的觸動我的心….
我該怎麼辦?
希望版眾在噓我之餘,也能給與一點參考意見,謝謝!
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