[求助] 公公和先生的衝突消失
我和先生結婚兩年,現在準備迎接第一個寶寶
公婆非常開心的搬來和我們同住,公公主動希望婆婆幫忙帶小孩,
一方面他們真的很期待新生的寶寶,一方面公婆健康體力也好,
公公也不放心小孩給"外人"(保母)帶,另一方面,公婆也希望讓我們經濟負擔小一點..
於是我們就展開了和公婆同住的生活。
同住其實公婆並不會要求我們做家事,有空的時候甚至還會幫忙
但有件事讓我覺得蠻有壓力的
就是公公是非常傳統的大男人,而婆婆以前是非常傳統的小女人,
但現在終於開始女權意識小小的覺醒
加上我公公從小就是在望族,有錢人家的大少爺出生,婚後又是家裡的經濟主力
我婆婆娘家家境不好,結婚生子後雖然有一小段時間在工作,但很快辭職在家當家庭主婦
所以其實她一直覺得自己矮公公一截,導致公公在家裡聲音非常大聲,是絕對的權威
而公公對我先生也是非常嚴格的管教,但我先生偏偏個性是比較調皮靈活的,
現在我先生也快四十歲了,公公卻還是把他當小孩一樣,甚麼都要念和管
小姑人一直在國外讀書,個性比較會撒嬌和聽話,所以公公當然也比較疼小姑
在我們同住前,其實這都不是問題
但同住後,我才發現,公公真的軍事管理
除非我先生畢恭畢敬都沒有自己的想法全廳公公的
不然公公就會發脾氣
這一切都是針對我先生和我婆婆
我公公其實對我很客氣也很體諒,也蠻疼我的(可能我外表也是比較柔順型的)
在外面雖然霸氣十足,但也是個談吐明理,有見識的長輩
但幾乎每天,我公公都會和我婆婆或我先生有衝突 (除非他們乖乖聽話)
我真的覺得從旁感到壓力...只好都默默飄走
但我真的很想做些甚麼,化解這些衝突
其實我先生是孝順的人,只是不是那麼的畢恭畢敬和比較有自己的想法
有時候都很心疼
私底下勸了我先生好多次叫他演一下乖寶寶,但他還是壓不下自己
不知道我能夠做些甚麼幫忙呢?
或許跟在國外的小姑私下談談怎麼"制"我公公?
很怕以後小寶寶出生後,公公也會這樣在家裡大小聲
還是等到寶寶出生,公公會看在寶寶的面子上調整脾氣呢?
很想知道,有沒有人有一樣的經驗,要怎麼自處,或怎麼扮演潤滑劑的角色呢?
謝謝!
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