日前發生小姑被大嫂殺害用水泥控成墓塚的新聞
每次看到那篇新聞我都從頭涼到腳
其實目前也是跟哥哥一家人同住
但是哥哥嫂嫂、姪女姪子都對我不錯
會跟他們一起住是因為之前找工作在哥哥家附近,而且當時養了寵物
其實到現在已經一起住了快兩年
嫂嫂對我不錯,年紀比我小,但是很照顧我
我每個月會給哥哥生活費
有好吃的東西我也會買了帶回家(有時候其實我可能自己沒吃都是他們吃完
也會看情況幫忙買牛肉、雞肉、水果等等
如果是我提說要吃什麼,我會去買,也不另外跟哥哥他們拿錢分擔
嫂嫂會提說要幫忙出,但是我考量兩個孩子現在教育費很貴,我都不會收
目前為止也沒有爭執或是吵架,蠻和樂的
私下我跟嫂嫂也常常會LINE來LINE去
但是在同一個屋簷下久了
有沒有一些事情是我注意不到但是需要注意的地方?
很怕自己變成毒菇,干涉太多,但是也怕自己該做的沒做好..
有時候姪女姪子看電視很近,我會叮嚀說:「後面坐著看」
但是嫂嫂坐在旁邊我就不知道自己出聲適合嗎?
我有問過嫂嫂,我有沒有需要改進的地方,她都是說他不會放在心上...(很微妙的回應
所以,請問有沒有避免變成毒菇的祕笈可以傳授一下~<(_ _)>
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哥哥嫂嫂都有工作喔,會給生活費是只給一些生活開銷的費用
像是水電、網路、菜錢等等的
其實說來有點丟臉,我常常是一天三餐吃家裡(汗顏
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有關搬出去的建議,我會當成今年換工作之後最重要的事情
因為預計年底要換工作,所以想說要換工作之後一併處理
謝謝大家提供的建議
※ 編輯: Aneles (59.124.171.152), 04/20/2018 10:17:27
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房子是哥哥的名字,房貸爸爸付了7成以上,
某年過年爸爸曾對我說:
妳可以永遠住在這裡,不用付房租,但是百年之後妳不能要求分家產。
我知道父母非常重視哥哥,所以遺產那些什麼我都不會去爭
生活費我也有曾問過哥哥會不會太少不夠
我哥都說夠,不用再多給
但是經過大家這麼提醒,我也知道自己終究是外人,是時候該要離開自力更生
謝謝大家!
※ 編輯: Aneles (59.124.171.152), 04/20/2018 10:50:20
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我要澄清一下,其實我哥哥嫂嫂是真的對我很好,沒有把我當成外人
我也沒有把嫂嫂當外人,因為我一直都覺得父母在世,父母是家人,
等父母百年之後,長兄為父長嫂為母..
其實我媽很吃醋我跟嫂嫂的關係比跟她還要好XDDD
我在前年發生一場車禍,當時身體各處表皮擦傷很嚴重,
當時我嫂嫂還沒上班,那陣子都是她不厭其煩幫我擦澡換藥,
所以我也一直銘記在心,她喜歡吃什麼、喜歡的小東西,能力可及我都會買
哥哥也給我很多照顧,車禍幫忙我出面去協調
所以他們真的對我很好很照顧
連嫂嫂的家人也對我不錯..
至於今天為什麼會問這個
是想說住在一起久了,有沒有小細節是要注意?
很多板友建議搬出去的部分我也會慎重決定
萬分感謝各位
※ 編輯: Aneles (59.124.171.152), 04/20/2018 15:08:07
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