[討論] 交往的冷淡期
小弟大四生,跟現任女友交往快兩年了。
我們同屆,學校在同縣市但有些距離,通常都是週末二日見面並住在對方租屋處。她跟我
的室友們(有男有女)算是小熟,我對她的室友們則都是見面會點頭的程度。
我自己覺得我們很適合,我也很喜歡她,相處起來不會有壓力。
假設問她要吃什麼,她的隨便就真的是隨便。
在一起想什麼就講什麼,不用去猜其實對方心裡怎麼想。
總之相處起來很舒服,甚至我們平常的訊息也都是各自有空、想讀才讀,一整天下來可能
只有兩三次回覆,但回覆的內容都是一長串且包含很多事情,不小心被朋友看到了還以為
是在談論嚴肅的事。
彼此也有默契在洗完澡後的睡前時間則是開始互相一句一句的聊天方式。
7月開始是她們學校為期兩個月的實習,從她實習的第一天開始就與之前相處起來不同。
她的工作環境都是阿桑跟大姐,不會有綠綠的可能。
但下班之後回到宿舍後也不太會回我訊息,連睡前的小聊時間也沒有了,變成我照常向她
分享生活,卻得不太到回應的感覺。
我對她到外縣市工作、生活的環境一切都很好奇,但是沒有太多她分享給我的資訊。
但也或許是因為產業、科系不同,就算她講了我也不懂。(但在之前的學校時期,她會分
享、拍照給我看她的作品或是生活趣事)
有向她反應過,得到的結論是『每天都一樣在上班,沒什麼有趣的事好分享』
時間就這樣持續到了8月底實習結束再到現在開學。
在她實習期間的這種相處模式還是持續著,一樣只有我單方面的向她分享我遇到的事,卻
得不太到什麼回應,突然有種熱臉貼冷屁股的感覺…
我們都說不出這是什麼感覺,她也覺得回覆我訊息變成『好懶、好麻煩』,最近見面也覺
得有層牆隔起的感覺,不像以前那樣隨心所欲。
我好想找她吵架,但我不知道要吵什麼。也不是想爭誰對誰錯,只是想趕快把目前的狀態
趕走。
我目前覺得是她沒了熱情跟動力…
各位女版的美美們,妳們有過這種經驗嗎?有沒有改善的方法?
目前想找她出去玩個一兩天…
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