[請益] 家人不准喝酒 該怎麼溝通
各位前輩大家好 小弟潛水多年首PO 請多指教
小弟今年26,跟父母同住(爸媽非常抗拒我們外宿),媽媽則是家庭主婦 虔誠信徒
小弟的媽媽 因為年輕時的不好回憶 非常禁止她的子女們喝酒
她對酒的態度只有0跟1 要嘛滴酒不沾 只要喝一口 就是道德敗壞 虛華...(下略千字)
我對酒的態度則是適當則可 盡量不喝醉 不喝到吐 喝了絕對不酒駕
如果是去了絕對喝醉的場合 我反而盡量躲 事實上前公司也是因為酒攤太多離職的
像這樣的差異造成我們之間無數次的摩擦
我覺得在滴酒不沾(0) 跟酗酒(1)之間 是有0.2 0.3 等等的小數
但我媽就是不能接受 喝了被發現 絕對歇斯底里 我會被打到瘀青(不嚴重的那種)
最近更說出了再喝一次酒 就要斷絕母子關係的重話
想說有喝酒就住外面 或是在外面等酒退再回家 的確也有成功紀錄
但我媽又非常靈敏 臉稍微紅一點點 就會被發現 想藏很難
住外面也會被懷疑 而且一直付旅館費或是拜託朋友也很困擾 覺得這樣不是辦法
就這樣放棄喝酒這樣一個人生小小樂趣 我覺得很可惜 但我也不想讓我媽傷心
請教各位前輩有沒有曾經遇過類似狀況 有沒有方法可以跟這樣的媽媽溝通
可以分享經驗 幫助小弟找到一個平衡點
謝謝!!
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我媽對搬走的態度也很強硬 一提搬出去也會小失控 甚至要求將來結婚也要住樓上樓下
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小弟也是覺得結婚後應該有各自空間 屆時 大概是要跟我媽全面戰爭吧 我有心理準備
這件事情不爭取不行 不過結婚的事情還很遙遠
為了酒跟我媽全面戰爭 好像還有點不划算XD
※ 編輯: TypeOtaku (111.240.111.3), 12/14/2014 01:15:18
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