[新聞] 父母沒反彈出櫃 姊姊卻不能接受
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Q︰我是一個同志,國三的時候跟家人出櫃,父母並沒有很大的反彈,反倒是給了鼓勵,
但是姊姊知道以後卻很不能接受。我跟姊姊感情從小就很好,什麼事情都能講,但是知道
我是個同志之後,每次談到這個她就不高興。
她現在大學讀的是英美文學系,常常看的原文電影都是有關同性戀的議題,起先我以為她
會習慣,但是她好像越來越討厭同性戀了,應該要怎麼讓她覺得很正常,還是就順其自然
?(桃園 EP)
A︰EP,你在國三的年紀,就有向家人出櫃的勇氣,並且還能得到家人的鼓勵,我相信所
有同志除了羨慕你有開明的父母外,更會為你的自信而喝采。
只是,在肯定你的同時,我卻也不禁要為你擔憂,因為隨著年紀的增長,必然要面對更為
複雜的人性或環境。
其實你所提到的例子並不少見,我認識一對在演藝界非常有名的兄弟,其中做弟弟的就不
只一次地向我抱怨,因為他哥哥不但有很多同志朋友,而且也曾在公開場合支持同志,但
是在家裡,他哥哥卻經常用不堪的言語羞辱他的同志身分。
這個弟弟和你一樣感到不解,他好幾次極感委屈的問我:「為什麼我哥哥可以支持別的同
志,卻不能接納自己的親弟弟呢?」
我從來沒想過要問他哥哥是什麼原因,因此只能以我的推測來回答你,我想,即使你姊姊
曾經接觸過和同志議題有關的電影或文本,但這並不表示她就一定會認同同志,此外,她
避開和你談同志話題,或許也和她的真實經驗有關吧!
試想,你姊和同學在課堂討論同志議題時,很可能大家七嘴八舌之際,會出現一些對同志
的揶揄或負面評論,她聽在耳裡當然不會好受,甚至她會擔心,如果同學知道她有個同志
弟弟,是不是會用一種異樣的眼光看待她?
也有可能她在校園裡看到某些同志的負面言行,由於對同志的不了解,她會理所當然地把
同志歸為同一類人。
因此,順其自然,多給你姊一些時間去了解真正的同志吧!
(如果你對親子間同志議題有任何疑難雜症,歡迎來信寄到電子信箱GLclub@hotmail.com
,每週二開心幫幫主將為你在版上解答。)
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