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超級謝謝大家熱情的給予建議^_^
也給了我們很多靈感跟想法,
因為顧及可能被知道用了什麼說法的風險,請原諒我無法把最後討論決定用什麼說法的結
果更新在這邊(跪)
選擇委婉的說詞是顧及了父母比我們有更多與對方互動的機會,讓他們日後好相見。
再次謝謝大家願意看這麼煩人的家族困擾跟提供建議。
謝謝、謝謝
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大家好
有個問題頗困擾,想尋求版友意見;或者說是抒發情緒吧…
文長,如果沒有太多時間的版友可以略過。
家人即將在下週辦結婚(午宴),外縣市的某家親友說當天午宴結束要住在我們家,該如何
婉拒對方(苦惱)。
他們全家(包括結婚的兒女、孫子女們)共20多人,讓他們住,其實並沒有太多問題;
問題就在,因為我們家是跟爺爺奶奶同住,所以小時候只要他們每次回來,彷彿我家就是
他家,我們家的東西(大多是食物、雞蛋、自家種的蔬菜)都會被拿光,對方雖然口頭會問
,但他們的詢問只是告知,不是在徵求同意,而且冰箱隨意開、電話隨意打,有一次真的
讓我印象深刻,因為打了一萬多元的電話費;
即使爺爺奶奶已經過世多年,依舊如此;因此只要他們來我們家,我們都會如臨大敵,把
家裡所有可能會被幹走的物品、食物、飲料,通通藏起來。
而且,結婚當天的忙碌、加上爸媽年紀大了,他們那麼大一家子住下來,除了爸媽無法立
刻休息,我們還得負責他們的晚餐以及隔天的早餐、還有午餐...
回想我媽媽北上擔當對方孩子媒人那天,累了想暫時休息,對方不但沒有張羅家裡的任何
一個地方讓她小憩,而是讓我媽睡在車上,就覺得我們也不必對他們禮尚往來。
問題來了,該如何用「軟釘子」婉拒他們?因為長輩很在意所謂的「和氣」,唉…
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