我知道結婚要談大小聘
也知道現在有些人有收有些人不收
如果媽媽要收我也不會怎樣
但是對於媽媽歡起換豆的個性真的很受不了
之前閒聊心情好時說:『我又不是再賣女兒不會跟他們收大小聘,我又不缺那一點錢...』
最近講到要提親的時間
媽媽本來說早上提完親中午一起到外面吃飯
後來不知道又聽那個親戚說提親後不能吃飯要11點前就離開
我聽了就說:都可以啦,吃不吃都沒關係,那是古代才不能吃飯,不過媽媽你如果要循古
禮也沒關係,我們配合。
媽媽就開始一連串不開心了
說什麼我們連日子也不給老師算
事實上並沒有,只是我提說我們很多同學都只是農民曆翻一翻並沒有特別請老師,也只是
以一種聊天的方式分享給媽媽聽,並沒有說我們也要這樣....
講到最後就說:『聘金我一定要給他收啦#@*&^$^@....』之類的
媽媽已經不是第一次這樣了
每次只要跟我不開心就連我的份一起出在男友身上
這次又以聘金來說嘴,我不知道我是被當成了什麼
一種籌碼嗎?還是一種商品買賣的概念,只要不合我意我就開高價一點嗎
事實上我早就跟男友有一個共識了,即便媽媽說不收,我們都還是會拿小聘12萬給母親,
如果母親要求超過12,我可以補足,因為不想讓他負擔太多,而且這錢是要給我家的我出
一點費用也不為過,男友家境不是很好,結婚的費用,金飾,聘金,餅錢都是自己出,他
家也沒有多餘的費用可以幫他,但他很努力,能有這些錢來辦婚禮也都是他自己努力打拼
來的,我媽媽也都知道,但是她還是這樣只要她不爽就批判別人,說他們沒有請媒人很小
氣,說他以後也不一定會孝順她,說本來收聘像賣女兒,現在不爽就說一定要收聘...
其實我真的覺得很不開心甚至有點難過
第一我是被當成了什麼
第二男友是做錯了什麼
雖然我們是要結婚新人,但卻什麼都要依照長輩的決定,我們尊重長輩但長輩們還是不開
心,難道連一點點分享朋友的結婚細節都不行嗎?
新人就只是一對要完成各種儀式滿足各種三姑六婆意見的傀儡...
--
※ 發信站: 批踢踢實業坊(ptt.cc), 來自: 101.9.144.252
※ 文章網址: https://www.ptt.cc/bbs/GetMarry/M.1520909999.A.909.html
推
03/13 11:05, , 1F
03/13 11:05, 1F
→
03/13 11:05, , 2F
03/13 11:05, 2F
推
03/13 11:06, , 3F
03/13 11:06, 3F
推
03/13 11:07, , 4F
03/13 11:07, 4F
→
03/13 11:07, , 5F
03/13 11:07, 5F
→
03/13 11:07, , 6F
03/13 11:07, 6F
→
03/13 11:07, , 7F
03/13 11:07, 7F
→
03/13 11:07, , 8F
03/13 11:07, 8F
→
03/13 11:07, , 9F
03/13 11:07, 9F
推
03/13 11:10, , 10F
03/13 11:10, 10F
→
03/13 11:10, , 11F
03/13 11:10, 11F
→
03/13 11:10, , 12F
03/13 11:10, 12F
推
03/13 11:22, , 13F
03/13 11:22, 13F
→
03/13 11:22, , 14F
03/13 11:22, 14F
→
03/13 11:22, , 15F
03/13 11:22, 15F
→
03/13 11:22, , 16F
03/13 11:22, 16F
推
03/13 11:31, , 17F
03/13 11:31, 17F
推
03/13 11:40, , 18F
03/13 11:40, 18F
→
03/13 11:40, , 19F
03/13 11:40, 19F
→
03/13 11:40, , 20F
03/13 11:40, 20F
→
03/13 11:40, , 21F
03/13 11:40, 21F
→
03/13 11:40, , 22F
03/13 11:40, 22F
→
03/13 11:40, , 23F
03/13 11:40, 23F
→
03/13 11:40, , 24F
03/13 11:40, 24F
→
03/13 12:25, , 25F
03/13 12:25, 25F
→
03/13 12:25, , 26F
03/13 12:25, 26F
→
03/13 12:25, , 27F
03/13 12:25, 27F
→
03/13 12:25, , 28F
03/13 12:25, 28F
→
03/13 12:25, , 29F
03/13 12:25, 29F
→
03/13 12:25, , 30F
03/13 12:25, 30F
推
03/13 15:35, , 31F
03/13 15:35, 31F
→
03/13 15:36, , 32F
03/13 15:36, 32F
推
03/13 16:20, , 33F
03/13 16:20, 33F
→
03/13 16:20, , 34F
03/13 16:20, 34F
→
03/13 16:20, , 35F
03/13 16:20, 35F
→
03/13 16:20, , 36F
03/13 16:20, 36F
→
03/13 16:20, , 37F
03/13 16:20, 37F
→
03/13 16:20, , 38F
03/13 16:20, 38F
→
03/13 16:20, , 39F
03/13 16:20, 39F
→
03/13 16:20, , 40F
03/13 16:20, 40F
→
03/13 16:20, , 41F
03/13 16:20, 41F
推
03/13 16:30, , 42F
03/13 16:30, 42F
→
03/13 16:30, , 43F
03/13 16:30, 43F
推
03/13 17:56, , 44F
03/13 17:56, 44F
→
03/13 17:56, , 45F
03/13 17:56, 45F
推
03/13 18:28, , 46F
03/13 18:28, 46F
→
03/13 18:28, , 47F
03/13 18:28, 47F
→
03/13 18:29, , 48F
03/13 18:29, 48F
→
03/13 18:29, , 49F
03/13 18:29, 49F
→
03/13 18:29, , 50F
03/13 18:29, 50F
推
03/13 18:31, , 51F
03/13 18:31, 51F
→
03/13 18:31, , 52F
03/13 18:31, 52F
→
03/13 18:31, , 53F
03/13 18:31, 53F
推
03/13 21:41, , 54F
03/13 21:41, 54F
→
03/13 21:41, , 55F
03/13 21:41, 55F
→
03/13 21:41, , 56F
03/13 21:41, 56F
→
03/13 21:41, , 57F
03/13 21:41, 57F
→
03/13 21:41, , 58F
03/13 21:41, 58F
推
03/13 23:04, , 59F
03/13 23:04, 59F
→
03/13 23:04, , 60F
03/13 23:04, 60F
推
03/14 10:34, , 61F
03/14 10:34, 61F
→
03/14 10:34, , 62F
03/14 10:34, 62F
→
03/14 11:48, , 63F
03/14 11:48, 63F
→
03/14 11:48, , 64F
03/14 11:48, 64F
→
03/14 11:48, , 65F
03/14 11:48, 65F
推
03/14 17:53, , 66F
03/14 17:53, 66F
→
03/14 17:54, , 67F
03/14 17:54, 67F
→
03/14 17:54, , 68F
03/14 17:54, 68F
→
03/14 17:54, , 69F
03/14 17:54, 69F
→
03/14 17:55, , 70F
03/14 17:55, 70F
推
03/14 23:56, , 71F
03/14 23:56, 71F
→
03/14 23:56, , 72F
03/14 23:56, 72F
→
03/14 23:56, , 73F
03/14 23:56, 73F
→
03/14 23:56, , 74F
03/14 23:56, 74F
→
03/14 23:56, , 75F
03/14 23:56, 75F
→
03/14 23:56, , 76F
03/14 23:56, 76F
推
03/15 20:28, , 77F
03/15 20:28, 77F
→
03/15 20:28, , 78F
03/15 20:28, 78F
→
03/15 20:28, , 79F
03/15 20:28, 79F
→
03/15 20:28, , 80F
03/15 20:28, 80F