[建議] 關於雙男的不耐煩
原po魔女,交往邁入三年半,上個月開始同居。
沒同居之前,他算是個性溫順,給我極大的空間與自由,但同居後...
他最近容易不耐煩,其實在搬家前就這樣了,抗議過ㄧ次有好轉,那時的不耐,我的感覺
是,變動讓他不安。但最近可能是我外務過多(職業是藝文工作者,除了正職之外還有玩
樂團),回到家挺晚,他就會採取一個愛理不理的態度,一點點小事情(比如問他東西放
哪之類的)他會呈現極度不耐並且口氣很差的狀態,或是做家事不俐落(因為他相當居家
,家事其實都他在處理比較多,我回到家後才會處理,但的確跟他的習慣不同),就會被
他用很爛的口氣嫌棄,我一直處於一種被唸就不講話,或是就簡單回答:喔。
但我發現,這種互動方式會讓我們的相處變的很有壓力,我會一直累積他的怒氣,到一定
程度爆掉後,用更差的態度回應,而他接受到我的不對勁,會讓互動陷入僵局。
在同居前,其實他就知道我很忙,無法早回家,也沒有阻止我做我想做的事。但同居後,
雖然他沒說,但他每次的臭臉都是因為我晚歸,每次晚歸都有報備,他也常常忘記我在忙
什麼...然後就愛理不理的這樣..去撒嬌還會被推開...
但我知道他為了維持這個家,這間房子,付出很多心力,並且真的很照顧我,我很愛他,
並且極度感激,才更不想將所剩無的相處時拿來嘔氣。
好的,因此我在想,面對他下一次的不耐煩跟爛口氣外,我該怎麼反應,可以減緩我們之
間的壓力,並且可以讓這狀態變的輕鬆?ㄧ直想不到高明的幽默...
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