[Talk] Am I asking too much?

看板EngTalk作者 (kagome)時間14年前 (2010/05/02 18:52), 編輯推噓7(7推 0噓 42→)
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So this past Saturday I went out with a guy I met on ptt. He's in the same school as I am, only a different major, and he's about my age and height. I really just wanted to make a friend, as I am new to the school and did kind of isolate myself inside my room. Anyways, when I suggested we go out shopping, I was thinking of just shopping and maybe grabbing a bite to eat. I never intended this to be a date in anyway but I think he did. =.= He dragged the evening on and kept asking me if I wanted to go anywhere else, grab a snack after we finished dinner, etc. He also kept asking if I wanted to go to Kaohsiung with him this Sunday, even though I hinted that I have a lot of work to do this week. P.S. Big minus if a guy can't get a hint. He's nice and we chatted the whole way, but I dislike the fact that he started putting the moves on me (i.e. putting his hand on my shoulder) before I even showed the slightest interest in taking this to the next level. Do you think I should make it clear that I have no intention of making this a relationship early on? I did a lot of evading and twisting last night, lol, to keep his hand off my shoulder, haha. The thing is, I don't dislike him, just maybe I haven't made myself clear that even though I am looking for a boyfriend, I am not the type of girl that will fall for someone quickly. I am a Taurus, and I observe and judge from a safe distance. He's a nice guy, and it may just be the way guys court girls in Taiwan (I have no way of knowing that though), but can't he be a bit more of a gentleman? I thought that by paying separately for stuff, I had made it clear that it was not a date =.= Really, if it were a date, I expect the guy to pay for everything. So what should I do? Just keep chatting to him on msn and think of excuses to not go out together? Or make it clear that I don't like touchy friends and eliminate him from being a potential boyfriend? Dating is an art that I haven't discovered. -- ※ 發信站: 批踢踢實業坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 140.116.137.156
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05/02 20:52, , 1F
What do you think about a girl and a boy know each
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05/02 20:52, , 2F
other on the net and going out? For guy, it's kind of
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05/02 20:53, , 3F
hint that you want to develop to a next level.
05/02 20:53, 3F
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05/02 20:55, , 4F
just talk to him straightly. if he accepts it, then
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05/02 20:56, , 5F
keep being friend with him. You don't have to bare
05/02 20:56, 5F
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05/02 20:57, , 6F
this kind of pressure. Be relax and happy...^_^
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05/03 11:58, , 7F
Big minus if a girl can only give a hint
05/03 11:58, 7F
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05/03 12:24, , 8F
you shouldn't expect a guy to pay everything even if
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05/03 12:24, , 9F
it's a date.....
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05/03 13:23, , 10F
I agree with "BAPExKAWS"
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05/03 17:04, , 11F
thanks, yeah I agree, and I guess I'm too American
05/03 17:04, 11F
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05/03 17:04, , 12F
still need to adjust to dating Taiwanese-style, ha
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05/03 18:12, , 13F
That's ok. Althought I don't agree with you, but I've
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05/03 18:13, , 14F
never let the girl pay... ^_^
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05/03 19:07, , 15F
he's just about your height? man then he's way too
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05/03 19:08, , 16F
confident! keep a safe distance +1
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05/04 18:49, , 17F
Not only you are learning to master it,he is too.
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05/04 18:49, , 18F
He has to learn how to interpret your signals
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05/04 18:49, , 19F
correctly, with your help of course.
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05/04 18:50, , 20F
Evading and twisting your shoulders may notAlways
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05/04 18:51, , 21F
be enough, tell him straight in the eyes that at
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05/04 18:51, , 22F
the moment you only see him as a friend if
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05/04 18:51, , 23F
necessary.Of course if he looks hurt and startsTO
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05/04 18:52, , 24F
cry on the street, you may also judge the
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situation and say something softening.
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05/04 18:52, , 26F
Don't have him guess all the time, it's hard to
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05/04 18:52, , 27F
say what should be expected especially when both
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05/04 18:53, , 28F
of you may go by two different rule books.
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05/04 18:53, , 29F
I thought asian guys are typically thought of as
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sensitive, respectful, and slow to respond. It
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05/04 18:53, , 31F
could be the cultural difference that caused his
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05/04 18:54, , 32F
misinterpreting your SOSsignals as a green light.
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05/04 18:54, , 33F
Find yourself some female friends and they will
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05/04 18:54, , 34F
tell you how they'd handle and expect in a
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05/04 18:54, , 35F
situation like this. Think of this as a fun
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05/04 18:55, , 36F
cultural anthropology project and stop comparing
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05/04 18:55, , 37F
it to an American dating situation, because it is
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05/04 18:55, , 38F
not. Good luck and enjoy the rest of your stay
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05/04 18:55, , 39F
here. =)
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05/05 01:55, , 40F
not all of guys from the Internet like him, but girls
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05/05 01:55, , 41F
gotta protect themselves, it's true
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05/05 01:55, , 42F
good for you that there was nothing more happened to u
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05/05 13:22, , 43F
lol @ fun cultural anthropology project
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05/05 13:23, , 44F
yeah i straightened it out with the guy
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05/05 17:37, , 45F
boardmate, chenzhishun1 replied so much!
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05/06 14:38, , 46F
116!!
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05/07 13:49, , 47F
omg this guy is moving way too fast, that's definitely
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05/07 13:49, , 48F
not how one should act on the first date, and it's not
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05/07 13:49, , 49F
a date...= =|||
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