餓死抬頭,小弟目前24歲,最近因為長輩看到大家都當曾祖父母和祖父母所以一直盧小弟
結婚生子,感到壓力很大,希望尋求開導或說服長輩的理由......
小弟目前出社會半年,工作算穩定但月薪不高。沒什麼存款,沒車沒房。交往六年的女友
同年紀,但還在尋找工作發展的領域,經濟狀況較小弟稍差。目前我們都在同一縣市發展
,各自租屋沒同居,大概一週見面兩三次,算是老夫老妻的相處模式。可能是大學太窩囊
,沒什麼錢和心思能經營感情,所以也因此磨耗掉許多熱情。
目前我們對未來共識只有「兩三年內不會結婚」、「有小孩要開車」、「要在目前的縣市
買房子生活」。
經濟狀況是我不用養家人所以一個人生活還算不錯,約會也是小弟付居多。但女友算是家
中經濟支柱,因為是長女對於家庭責任心也比較大。我想也是因為這樣導致她一直不敢與
小弟談論到婚嫁地步。再者是因為我們都剛出社會,還想多玩幾年,不想被小孩綁住。養
不起也是考慮的點。
小弟家中尚有一27歲的哥哥,感情狀況最近才剛開始幾天,所以長輩把目光都集中小弟身
上,但我覺得貧賤夫妻百事哀,沒錢結了婚一定很慘,更怕連累到下一代,想27以後買車
,存款也有再打算。至於女方那邊因為有同輩已生小孩所以比較沒壓力。
目前這種情況下,因女友心煩工作,小弟也不敢再拿我們長輩的壓力告訴她,但長輩方面
又一直強勢給壓力,例如揚言明年要去提親,長輩要直接打給女友說趕快生小孩之類的,
小弟真的不知如何是好,還請求各位過來人開示......
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抱歉,小弟補充一下已經很正式的向長輩們說了經濟能力不夠還有我和女友計劃等等所以
短時間內無法結婚生子,但我總是要回家,女友也是會出現在他們面前,小弟當然能應付
家人,只是想問看看有沒有什麼不再讓他們這樣盧我的好辦法......很怕他們太積極 吃緊
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